is it normal to not be excited about the wedding anymore?

Hey date twin!! I do not feel this way at all! I am so excited for the wedding I want it hurry up and be July already. Maybe you are just tired for planning. Take a break for a while dont talk about it or make any decisions. If you do decide not to go through with the big wedding I think you and your FH should definately go to the court house and make it official.

My wedding is the day before you ladies! And I'd have to say right now, I am more stressed out than ever. If things were going my way with the planning, I would be super excited. But right now, for me, Its hard to be excited when I have things going wrong left and right. Since you have everything all set... I guess now its just a waiting game for you! But it could also just be something you are going through... maybe it will pass! As the time gets closer you may find yourself getting more excited!

Right after I started planning I was feeling overwhelmed and defeated. I thought many, many times about saying "Let's just go to Vegas!" But once I got the major things out of the way and it was a little less stressful, I got excited again. Like FMW said, take a break. Don't talk about it, don't do anything for it.....just step back for a few. If you don't get excited after that, then make your decision about it.

It could be the stress from planning. Especially when you have a lot going on, with work, or weddings bring out drama with family and friends and so on. Take a breather and just take a break from planning and see if that helps but if you still feel the same way and just want to get married withou all the fuss then I agree with Future mrs wells, go to the court house! I hope it passes and you can get excited again!

I definitely think it's the stress. I confessed to my best friend/MOH/self-proclaimed sister today that I want to just forget the whole thing, count my losses, and elope! LOL. I know that's not what I REALLY want-- it's just the stress of all the decisions (especially since some of my decisions have seriously backfired on me lately, something I'm not really used to). Hang in there sister and try to relax when you can.. You'll get excited again : )

I'm a week after you, and I'm totally passed the planning excitement. I'm still excited to be marrying my best friend, but I could care less about the wedding anything anymore!

I hope it's normal!

Good grief i can not wait till it is OVER!!! like you i love fh <---THIS MUCH ---> but i just hate having to watch every penny we spend. the process has been nothing but drama. i finally just quit planning about 3 months ago. we got the major stuff done thats all we need. we wont have a bridal party, no reception no extras! saves lots of stress $ and DRAMA! back to topic. i do think most of us do go through this phase at least for a short time.

I'm with Meghan. I'm just a couple of weeks after you, and the planning has taken its toll on me! I remember when every day was spent with DIY projects, planning, and hours on the phone with my mom. Now I don't even care, I'm just ready to marry my honey bunny! The thing is, I don't even have the stress that most brides have - not one vendor to deal with! Still, I think it's normal. Planning a wedding can be so exciting in the beginning, but that's when you don't realize the stress involved. There's no reason you can't change your wedding plans, though. If you want something smaller, more intimate, or even a JP wedding, go for it! Marriage isn't about all the decorations, fancy food, or perfect touches that we add to it. It's about a union between two people. Stop stressing, take a breath, and step away from the wedding stuff for a little while.

I am with you ladies Mine is July 3rd and I am extremely stressed - and like you, all I want is my life back with my fiance! I cannot wait to get to July 3, and for us to have a beautiful day, it just has been so stressful. I am not used to all this planning, nor am I am planner in general, so to me, I just want all my loved ones to be there and for everyone to have a wonderful time. But don't worry, I am sure that these feelings will pass by and the excitement will return....it actually is starting to for me....a little bit at a time. Once I can start counting down from 10 days, I think I will be at the height of excitement!!!!

You are just stressing... when it gets closer all you want is it to be done and over with. I feel the same way. It is a normal feeling. The excitement will come back on the day of.

Thank you so much ladies,i do agree,the excitement will probably come back to me like a month before hahah.i feel so much better im not alone

I don't think it's normal, I still have over a year though that could change... but I'm really excited even with all the stress and what not. Knowing that the end result is me marrying Nick makes it all worth it and very exciting! I don't know that's just me...

Well I will tell you this from my view.... we went to courthouse on 3/11/11 (to get him on my medical insurance due to medical needs that could not wait any longer)... we did not "celebrate" , or even tell anyone or go out to dinner or anything, we simply went to our local bar and had a few drinks afterwards... and life has continued as normal since, except that we are now married. NOW.... nothing seems important. I too have lost my "steam"... I do not know why... I want so bad to have "our day in the spotlight".. to celebrate with family and friends... to get all dressed up........ but the excitement has left me...

Sometimes I feel the same way. I have a lot longer to go, but I'm just an indecisive person. My FH has left almost all the decisions to me, AH! When I look through everything and try to make a decision I just want to go to the courthouse then go out to the bar. I know I would regret it though so I'm just trying to make little decision here and there for now.

I totally understand. I went through a serious "I'm over it" spell. I quit planning-and even left WW alone for a while. Once the 90 day mark hit I started bouncing back. I'm slowly but surely getting back into the swing of things. I honestly agree with everyone else when they say its stress. Thank God I only plan on getting married once-I can't do this again. I'm looking forward to the wedding and marrying my best friend-but all this extra stuff has taken it's toll and I'm just ready for it to get here already! I've started asking my BM's for help with some things just to try to ease the stress levels some. They are really stepping up for me-I should've asked for thier help a long time ago.

I can say that, even compared to last week, I have really calmed down on the wedding stress. I am kind of like, well, I have all the important stuff down - no matter what the wedding can happen. I AM still really excited to be married and live with FH, though. Wedding planning? Pssshaaw, don't care so much. I am just waiting for when I can go home with FH and not have to leave at the end of the night!

Mine is July 2nd, and I am soo over the planning and the stress. If it's not one thing it's another. I am still excited about getting married and super excited about the honeymoon but as far as the wedding and reception I really could care less.

We're date twins. I'm in the same place. The excitement is gone and I'm ready to get it over with. I dread the little details that are coming now that I think I have the big things over and done with. And those details are getting to be annoying especially when I have to depend on someone else to do their part.

I'm the same way. Funny thing is I found out a couple weeks before we got engaged that FH was gonna propose. I was so excited for those couple weeks (& didn't tell anyone of course). The excitement has died down since the ring was put on my finger. Don't get me wrong, I love FH & want to marry him, but like a lot of others I just wanna freakin marry him already!

Honestly, if it wasn't for the surgery I'm (planning) on getting next month & the required healing time afterwards, we'd probably be getting married sooner.

We are getting married the 30th of July, this year. I was in the same boat just before I found this website. I started to feel like garbage from people on other sites telling me how I should or should not do things. It really bummed me out! I had a good cry with my fiancee and explained everything I was feeling. He was so incredibly understanding and he reassured me that no matter what, everything will be fine in the end! I was so scared he was going to be like to hell with everything and lets elope! But he didn't! He really impressed me with how he had taken it. That, in itself, encouraged me and got me even more excited about things! I wasn't one of the girls who dated tons of guys for fun. I held out and knew what I wanted! With him, it's the total package! Sometimes, you may feel down and like you just want everything to go to "normal". In the end, if you are marrying your best friend, and can't imagine life with out them, and the feeling down part passes, it'll all be worth it!