Is it necessary to do bridal shower favors and wedding favors?

What do you mean by "We are serving lots of food at the bridal shower" ?

I think most favors at any event are a waste of time and money. Are you the bride or the host of the shower?

I guess not lots of food at the bridal shower, we are doing a wide variety like finger foods and desserts of some kind. I am the bride, my mom is hosting the shower, but I’m helping plan.

We’re not doing favors. Most people will take them and throw them away or not take them at all. It’s a waste of money IMO. I can think of other things we can use the money towards.

We aren’t doing favors at the wedding but we have a couple of prizes set for games for our Couples Shower. But we aren’t doing favors, you’d have to win the game to get the items.

I wouldn't expect favors at a shower. I'd rather that money went towards wine....

I would not be offended with no favors. I'm the type of person that takes it even though I don't want it because I'd feel bad. Then I would keep it for the same reason. I'm always worried the person is going to come over and ask if I still have it, haha. The best favors are edible favors if you do decide to have them. Choose something you wouldn't mind having a lot leftover, I'm doing those little spice mixes that you can make into dips because I love them and will use whatever is left behind.

I’m pretty sure we won’t be giving favors. There’s always so many left over so it seems like a waste of money. We will have a photbooth that prints photos right away so that’s favor enough for me. They’ll be able to remember how much fun they had that way!

I rarely take the favors or even notice them unless they are edible. I would skip them altogether, put the money to good use somewhere else.

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Amen to that!

We are doing favors at the wedding and the shower I didn’t have a choice in the matter my FMIL bought them for me and we are making them we are doing little buckets with a saying on them and flower seed packets both for the bridal shower we haven’t got a favor yet for the wedding.

I think if you’re going by etiquette then yes, favours should be given out at both the bridal shower and the wedding. HOWEVER, it is by no way a mandatory thing. You could always put a donation in their name to a charity instead (this way the money is going towards a good cause).

View Quoted Comment Don’t do this. You have no idea what charities people support/don’t support.

I say no need for the favors. We did favors for my SIL's bridal shower and my mother still has a majority of them in her basement because no one took them. It was a waste of time and money for us to make them.

View Quoted Comment If she’s worried that people will just throw away the favours than what’s the difference?

It’s just an idea.

View Quoted Comment The difference is I’d rather have no favor at all than have someone donate “in my name” to a cause/charity I don’t believe in.

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That's the thing about being a guest to an event, you don't get to decide what the favour gets to be.

BUT, we are just giving the OP our advice/opinions. I'm sure whatever she decides will be the right choice for her.

I just my first bridal shower this weekend and my FSIL gave out mini champs bottles as favors. Hardly anyone took them! I was surprised. My FSIL, my FMIL, and I ended up taking home several each. Favors are a cute idea, but unless they serve a specific purpose or are edible, you can count on most of them being left behind.

My mom hosted my shower and did do favors and we will do them for the wedding. I don't think I have been to a wedding or a shower that didn't have some kind of favor, but I don't think anyone will notice or complain if they don't get one.

I saw an idea where you take the money you would have spent on favors and donate to a charity. Then put on each table a note stating that was what you did. I think we are going that route!

We are having a photobooth where guests can get a print out of their photo taken. I was considering mini bottles of wine, but idk. the costs are adding up. Debating if it's even worth it. IF we do something, it will be edible. I don't want anymore bubbles or chapsticks.