Is it crazy that I really don't want a bridal shower?

I don't really want one either so no you're not crazy! My mom's throwing me a small one anyways, and my FH's Grandma is having a Wedding Shower for us where FH grew up, and I've been told I pretty much don't have a choice. But if it was up to me I wouldn't have anything like that at all.

I'd prefer not to have one or rather not have a "traditional" one. FH and I don't really need anything. We attempted to register last weekend and it was difficult. I'd prefer a bbq with both male and female friends. The thought of sitting in a chair with a bunch of women looking at me open presents makes me break out in hives.

Thanks Future, glad Im not alone. @Lori, I know right?! It just does not appeal to me but I gave in and agreed. She pretty much wouldn't leave me alone about it. Gotta love her! I am going to try to have fun and make the best of it but sooooo not looking forward to it. I guess that's the wrong attitude? LOL

Did you tell her that you don't want a shower? Maybe she just thinks you're being humble; explaining to her the reasons you don't want one might help her understand your view. Look on the bright side...it's GREAT that you have a MOH who is so interested in your wedding and excited to help you!

Yes Rosie, I did tell her and yes she thinks that I am just being humble and don't want the attention. I love her and she is excited for it so I am turning my frown upside down and putting on the happy excited bride face for my bridal shower. EEK! LOL!

I was indifferent also. FH's family threw a surprise shower for me and it was fun. I was really touched by their generosity. My MOH is throwing one for me to, so I am keeping the guest list very short to keep down their expenses. But, I am grateful to have people that love me enough to want to do that for me.

I do understand if you just hate such type of occasions so you may want to keep it to a very small number of guests and ask that it not last too long.

No shower for me either! Lol! I would just explain everything and let her know why you don't want one. I would also tell her that if she feels that it's something she needs to do, then you won't stop her. Just because she might take offense to you not wanting one. If that makes any sense. I could see someone getting upset about it. Or sneaking a surprise shower in somewhere.

Not crazy! I'm not doing a shower, bachelorette party, or any of the traditional before wedding stuff. Do what makes you feel happy! Let her know how you feel, and tell her that you don't want the shower. She should understand.

I don't necessarily want one either. If someone decides to throw one, fine, but I'm not hoping for one. I didn't have a bachelorette party the first time, and I won't feel robbed this time either. I would like to go to lunch with some of my girlfriends. that would make me happy.

I think this is one more area where people have different expectations. just let her know it's not your "thing." OR, explain that with the economy bad and all, you'd rather everyone just go to lunch together and forgo the gifts. Or something similar....

I told people I did not want one because I felt it was making guests do double duty. I did not have one.