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Patricia
Beginner May 2019

Is Honeyfund: Tacky or Not?

Patricia , on January 23, 2019 at 12:55 PM Posted in Honeymoon 0 17
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My FH and I are thinking about using HoneyFund as our wedding registry. Money is tight and we just don't think we can make a honeymoon happen. We have been living together for almost 6 years, and really have everything we need as far as household items.

My parents think its somewhat tacky to be asking for money for our honeymoon. They keep mentioning that we are more than likely to receive money anyway.

I know that times have changed and a lot of couples are choosing to do untraditional registries, but for some reason I can't shake their words.

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Latest activity by Emily, on March 27, 2021 at 8:37 PM
  • Casey
    VIP December 2018
    Casey ·
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    If you search "Honeymoon fund" you'll find the general consensus here is, yes, it's tacky. The best way to ask for cash is to just not have a registry. We got 2.5K from our 110 person wedding, and we still did have a registry with items left over on it from the bridal shower.

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  • MrsMcK
    VIP September 2017
    MrsMcK ·
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    Yes, it is tacky. Make your registry very small or don’t register at all. Most people give money as a wedding gift anyway.
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  • Victoria
    VIP October 2018
    Victoria ·
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    Team Not Tacky here. People seem to hate them because they charge a fee, and that is only partially correct. There are ways that it does not if you read the fine print. Also, I don't personally see it as asking for money. I see it as purchasing an experience for someone. If I can help someone afford their ziplining, I'm happy to pick that off their honeymoon registry. I think it's incredibly fun! And way more personal than just giving a check or cash.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    Personally I think it's tacky to ask for cash since people will just gift it if you don't have a registry. But I think it depends on your friend & family group. My family personally would hate it and be so offended, but my fiance's family probably wouldn't mind.

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  • B
    Expert September 2018
    Brittany ·
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    Just have a small registry - most people brought money to our wedding and we had a decent size registry! We only had about 15-20 gifts with 130 people in attendance.

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    I agree. The fee is tiny. I see no difference in telling guests "Honeyfund" vs. "Macy's" when they ask if you're registered because in either case you'll telling them what exactly to gift you. I did learn here NOT to include registry info in your STDs, invites or wedding website. Etiquette is to wait for guests to ask if you're registered. Some won't ask and will give you money anyway.

    Honeymoon idea... we took a mini-moon for a few days and planned an official honeymoon later. If money is tight you may want to do the same. We were also exhausted after our wedding. We needed to save more money and vacation day for a honeymoon. Why not plan for an affordable mini-moon? Any cash gifts can be used for that, or put into a fund for an official honeymoon for your 1st year anniversary.

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    I don’t feel strongly either way, we didn’t have a honeymoon registry and got a large amount of cash and checks. As long as you don’t put it on the invitation. Also be aware that guests aren’t actually purchasing you honeymoon experiences just giving you money that goes directly into your bank account under the guise of purchasing experiences or dinners. So if you ended up using some of the money for something else unrelated to the honeymoon and have guests that would take offense to that I would say skip the honeymoon fund.
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    Also I know people say the fee they take is tiny but I added up how much we would’ve lost to fees if we did a honeymoon fund and it would’ve been over $600 with the amount of money we received.
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  • Kiana
    Dedicated June 2019
    Kiana ·
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    I don’t like it. In one invite I received a poem saying they don’t want gifts only money.

    And i I thought it was the worst thing ever. Needless to say, they didn’t get any money from me.

    I think it it would be better to have a cheaper honeymoon that is affordable and maybe a nicer trip a couple of months later! I would maybe see if there are any places you can cut back some.
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  • Danielle
    Devoted October 2019
    Danielle ·
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    I have a lot of friend who did honeymoon funds and I didn’t find it tacky at all. I would note all of them took those actual honeymoons, so it wasn’t like my money was intended for something and went to something else. I decided a hybrid on Zola that has some gifts so we can upgrade a few things (I know some of my family will only want to give physical gifts) and then made a honeymoon fund as well.
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  • Mariangeli
    Devoted October 2019
    Mariangeli ·
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    I think you should have both, so that way if someone gets *offended* by giving money for your honeymoon, then they can get you a physical gift from the registry. My friend did not have a registry because she wanted cash, and instead got a million gift cards to stores! Nothing worse than a gift card to a store you don't even shop at. Although I would do research on where you have the Honeyfund because a significant fee would definitely suck

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Asking your guests for money in any way is tacky.
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  • Sarah
    Devoted May 2019
    Sarah ·
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    Agree with this wholeheartedly! We're in the same boat, and also we love to travel and our friends and family are very aware of this. Zola was a great option for us to have a mix of a few things and a fund - the fees are also not bad at all. I was worried if we didn't register at all that people would likely give us money but would also give us random things that we do not need or want and then I'd have to figure out how to return them. This way if they want to get you a physical gift, at least it's something you want, and if they want to help send you on a honeymoon, that's cool too. They also have things like meal and wine subscriptions, which lord knows we're all going to need post wedding.

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  • Corinne
    Corinne ·
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    Some people find gifts on sale so to me its tacky because some don't have it to give . many people now a days find different gifts or give money on their own . I think it puts guests in an awkward situation.

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  • Chelsea
    Beginner July 2021
    Chelsea ·
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    DONT LISTEN TO ANYONE! It is your wedding YOUR REGISTRY! I have never thought it was tacky but also would never care if someone thought it was. Because if it’s what I want it is what I will get. You can never go back and do your wedding over, if you listen to people saying not to do something “because it’s tacky” you’re not listening to your wants, needs, or heart. Screw that girl! You do you boo thang!!! You will have an amazing wedding and you will spend thousands of dollars on that wedding. You should get the gifts you want (or fund you want) and who cares what others think about it! If you’re happy that is all that matters!!!!
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  • Marcia
    Expert March 2021
    Marcia ·
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    It is incredibly tacky, and I have never given to one. Asking for money is always rude.


    If you don't register, people will give you money to use for whatever you want.
    Also, some people will get you a physical gift either way because they want to contribute to a married home, so if you don't register, don't be shocked to get a set of candle sticks or a cast iron skillet.

    Also, I know people who refuse to give to honeyfunds because they find the idea of funding a luxury vacation, rather than contributing to you starting your lives, to be in bad taste. This is a know your crowd kind of thing, but this is a strong sentiment in my circle.
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  • Emily
    Savvy August 2021
    Emily ·
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    Having a gift registry is asking for gifts. This is no difference. So a guest who expects to have to buy a gift, gives there $50 to a honeymoon fund. How is it tacky? Asking for cash is tacky but whether you register for gifts or an experience is the same.

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