Is excluding children ever ok?

Why do you "HAVE" to use her. Last time I check its your wedding. Put who you want as the flower girl! Trust me youll regret it later when your wedding stress kicks in. I personally am not choosing to invite kids except my close family that is traveling.

There is nothing wrong with excluding kids if that is your choice. We just had our reception party and did not invite kids. I would especially not pay for them if the venue charged as adults. I wouldn't cut our friends for kids.

Its not about offending anyone. To me its all depends on what type of wedding. What time of day is the wedding? The cost of the wedding? To me evening weddings isnt kid friendly. Im sure drinking will be involved. Its alot of money to spend on kids since they will be charged as an adult. Whatever the decision yall make yall should do it together. Your family will have to understand if u decide no kids.

Im not having kids at my renewal. There will be drinking and late hours.

Our venue also counts children as adults in as far as paying for them. We aren't inviting kids either. Just remember if you aren't having kids, then NO kids. If some parents leave their children at home only to get there and see you've made an exception for others, there will be hard feelings.

There are a LOT a couples choosing to have child free weddings. It is totally ok to exclude them.

It's ok to exclude kids. I didn't realise it, but it is fairly common. Those who are closest to you will understand your decision and will make arragements so that they can be there for your wedding. Those that get upset and refuse to come? Well that is their loss.

As for the flower girls, stick to your decision and have none.

You can ABSOLUTELY exclude children from your wedding. We are. We were very up front with all the parents of the 87 children about that fact from the beginning. no flower girls or ring bearers here. 21 and older to attend out wedding (yes, ceremony and reception)

We had an adult only wedding. Nobody died.

The sun will rise. Exclude them if you want. It happens all the time.

There's nothing wrong with excluding kids. Be prepared for people bitching about it but ultimately it's your wedding and in the end the adults are going to be happy for the chance to party without worrying about the little ones.

We aren't having kids at all. None in the ceremony either.

We didnt have any children under 16 at our wedding. It was fun for the parents to get out and enjoy each others company without the children.

You absolutely may exclude them. You just have to know some people won't attend either cause they're traveling and can't get sitters to cover such a long absence or cause they can't leave their 'little darlings' for an evening. If you're fine with that, go ahead and have an adults only wedding.

Were not having flower girl either bcuz we both have nieces around same age and i prefer not to have kids were only inviting 3 kids and our son thats it no cousins it is what it is but our wedding is late at night on a saturday and i think its totally ok people should understand

I think it is perfectly fine to exclude children. Nobody has the right to make demands for YOUR event. I think it's important to be clear about what you want and stand your ground. It just blows my mind how much other people try to control what happens at other people's weddings. They need to realize where their place really is.

We had to choose to include my fiancé's nephews and nieces and they would have made up approx. 10% of the guest list, so we decided not to. I would have loved to have some of the older teen girls there, as I am closer to them but since we couldn't pick and choose it was no one. No one seems upset (yet).

I believe its your wedding and you can do what you want. I am having my niece's and nephew's attend and so is my fiancé. We have a large family but doesn't mean everyone has to come. There will be some tight faces but again who wants to pay all that money for a kid plate when you have other people you want to invite. No kids at the reception but our daughter and our niece's and nephew's.

We are not inviting kids, but are offering to arrange child care and set up a kids room. There are only 100 guests and they have 20+ kids, mostly toddlers.

It's your wedding. Do what you think is right. Stick to your guns. It will all be okay. Anyone who truly cares for you will understand!

Remember: this is your day. I had a similar problem in deciding which children to include in the wedding guest list, and which ones to include in the ceremony itself. In the end, we decided only very very close family children should be in attendance. For instance my cousin has five children, that are included in EVERY SINGLE family gathering, and we are all very close. They are invited, but my second cousins 5 children that I have never met are not invited.

In the end, I asked the slightly older children (10, and 12) to be a part of my wedding, as the younger children wont notice if they are included or not, and will actually be less stressed if they aren't.

Hope this helps.

We had one child there, and it was my only niece who I'm very close to. She was the one person in my bridal party. Otherwise, NO children were invited and I didn't get kick back from anyone. Just exclude them ALL and make it easy. My husband's nephew and his wife showed up with their 7 month old. I couldn't do anything about it so I just let it go.

Definitely OK to exclude children! We aren't....and I only mention that because we're allowing kids and I'm still not having a flower girl or ring bearer. Its your wedding!