Is dad a part of the wedding party?

It goes w/out saying usually, but I think listing him is appropriate. Especially if he would feel more involved.

In my opinion, no he's not a member of the wedding party. Your dad is your dad, and unless he's a groomsman and will stand up with your FH then he's not. You could include him if it was a big deal to him, maybe make a parents of the Bride and Groom page.

Thanks girls. I agree Tee, that is what I was thinking too. Our wedding party was chosen by me and FH, my dad walking me was a given. I think a page on the website would be good, you are right. Then all parents can get recognition not just my dad. Thank-you.

I think for the purpose of the website he definitely should be mentioned! You could put something like "presenting the bride"

And also if you are doing programs. But as far as sitting at the head table with the wedding party then it would be a no unless you have all the parents sit at the head table. But I think there should be a table for the parents that is closest to the head table.

Having a dad walk you down the aisle is not always a givin. Don't take it for granted and list him in any way that will make him feel better. For my wedding my Mom will be walking me down the aisle, and for my sister's wedding our brother walked her. We have a dad...he just chose to not be in the picture when it came time for the weddings. We were both very hurt by it.

You're welcome @sarao, like I said- he is still a huge part of the wedding he's just not in your wedding party. I think the parents page would be best. Good luck!

I hear ya, Lisa. My parents are going to be a part of the wedding, but her parents will not. She still hasn't "come out" to her dad, and her mom absolutely forbids her from telling him. She said he wouldnt forgive her and he wouldn't walk her down the aisle anyway. I personally think the man is a grown man and should have the opportunity to decide for himself. I told FW's mom that if he EVER asks me, I will NOT lie to him. I'll tell him the whole truth, and if he asks why he wasn't told, I tell him that his wife told us that we WERE NOT to tell him. So, just because there's a father, doesn't mean that it's a given they'll be there to support you. (Still got 384 days to hope like hell that he asks me ANYTHING about our relationship. I so want him there and I know that my FW does as well.)

And I'd just like to say WOW! to those of you who said not to include him!! It's "a given"? My father is deceased and the hardest part of all this planning is knowing that he won't be there. It wouldn't of even of been a thought not to list him. And to say that he really isn't contributing financially as one of your points... WOW! Did he not give you life? Did he not raise you and provide for you while you were growing up? My dad was the most important part of my life and even though he will not be at my wedding physically, he will still be mentioned and still be a part of it in other ways.

Exactly what I was getting at lil bit. Not everyone has their dad there...

And mine is a dirtbag who hasn't seen me since I was 2 so everyone is different. I'm not saying that he's not important or that he's not a part of the wedding, just that maybe she should set up a parents page to pacify him and honor everyone else too. And technically he's not a groomsman. I meant no offense at all, I apologize if I stepped on anyones toes.

Tee-your idea was a good one

I would say yes, he is a part of the wedding party. When we announce the "wedding party" at weddings, the parents are included 99% of the time.

Tee your idea was really good. At least you were thinking of a special way for the dad to be included.

What about including a separate page with a little paragraph about each of your parents? That way he gets to be included and you can give a shout out to all your parents.

Lil bit-sorry to hear about your dad, that has to be really tough. Im glad you guys are going to find ways to honor him. I always think thats very special when I go to weddings and deceased parent or grandparent is honored.

Now that being said, My mom is walking me down the aisle. Do I consider her part of the wedding party? No. But if I had some kind of program for my wedding, parents would be on there. I coudn't imagine how hurt my mom would feel, if I said "Oh you're walking me down, thats a givin." I would feel bad even thinking about saying something like that to her. Just imagine how your dad would feel if he heard you say that....just a thought.

Well, I appreciate the comments. I was only speaking of the wedding party website page, so thanks again Tee for your idea. My parents were mentioned on the invite. I personally (only for my situation here) have a difficult relationship with my dad and in my situation, only mine, him walking me is a given. We all come from different families and in mine it is difficult to "include" my dad without him taking over so I have to be careful. Thank-you girls.

I dont have a dad(he's deceased) but I might be going with tee's idea.I had never thought of this...so maybe for my grandfather(who's walking me down the aisle)and aunt(who raised me)I'll do that it'll be cool and a nice gesture to them to say thanks.

I think it is a great idea Gail. We actually do have a "thank-you" page on our website which thanked our parents for everything.We also have a rememberance page for those who have passed with pictures included. I just wasn't sure if dads were included in the wedding party, I am going with no.

Yea wedding party is strictly maids and men lol..but good luck and dont forget to tell your dad to check your page out once it's up

I didn't put him on the program as part of the wedding party (though listed as father of the bride)....... but he's not on the website either so yeah. I think it's always nice to have a VIP section on the program (fathers, mothers, grandparents, etc)