Is anyone else so stressed out, they just want The we’d to be over with already?

I can definitely relate- with the invitations and everything. My father and mother have both passed away and so I'm stressing about all the wedding expenses being passed to my one set of grandparents that I have left. It's tough. It will all work out the way it's supposed to, though.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! Congratulations on your engagement btw.

Yes I honestly thought nobody cared about my wedding that much. But it turns out they are taking everything so personally and they do care a lot. I hate weddings and never wanted one and my focus is my fiancé. He wanted the whole big deal so we’re doing it. But everyone is making everything about them. I never knew it would be like this and at first it wasn’t, but the closer we get the more things are starting to happen. Sometimes I feel like I just want to forget the whole thing.

I'm not really stressed, but worried for everything to come together. I'm kinda starting to get over it.

I think the less people you get involved in planning, bridal party etc. the less opinions & less stress you will have.
In our case, we are paying for our wedding, our parents are very unobtrusive, we decided on no BP except for flower girl & ring bearer, and we are inviting only the closest friends/family. So far we have zero stress & just enjoying the process together (besides realizing how ridiculously anything wedding related is priced lol).

Yes. I'm ready to not have to hear about how everyone else feels and what they are thinking. Or being hurt that they are not invited or in the wedding party.. and some of these people I have not seen or talked to in 8 years. So they have never met my Fh or my kids

Omg yes. I am definitely still looking forward to my wedding, I'm very excited about it, but I had no idea how many opinions and moreso, expectations, there would be from other people about something that is (to me) so personal. There's nothing wrong with just wanting to get through it, though, right? I'm trying to put in perspective as just one important day in my life-- not THE important day.

Best wishes, fellow bride!

I felt this way the last 2 weeks. I thought everything was taken care of and planned, but life sure does have a way of messing up your plans. But let me tell you what Friday afternoon once I arrived at the church for the rehearsal I was so much better and just enjoyed myself for the next day and a half. All the stress and worry and headaches and tears were worth it.

There were several things I was stressing over so much until one day I just decided it wasn't worth it. Not worth the worry, or stress, or time. The big thing was flowers and centerpieces. Once I decided that in the scheme of things they weren't that important and what I had planned was fine I felt so much better! I also had to make a conscious effort to STOP telling my mom everything. It was a decision I had to make and when I did I felt better. She had good intentions, but a different view of things. The argument that caused this was eye opening for her as well. When we went back to talking again she had a whole new perspective on helping me.

Take a deep breath, step back from the stress and planning, and decide what it important. The day is about you and your FH. Don't let others or unimportant things get you down. In the long run all that's important is 5 people show up; you, FH, officiant, and a couple of witnesses, and you have that little piece of paper that makes it all legal. The rest is just extra and fun. Good luck lady! It will be great!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the good advice. God bless you.

Honestly the day is about you and ur fiance. At the end its what makes you two happy, I understand the stressfulness about family/friends not being invited. But your day, your way (both of y'alls). I just shrugged it off. While planning is stressful- you don't need any more added stress.

Yes! A thousand times yes! I was super stressed already with all the big day organizing. Morning of my wedding I wanted the day to be over with. But after the ceremony, that was when I just loosened up and began to enjoy all the planning I did. Totally normal to be feeling that way. But at the end of the day, I was just happy to be married to my best friend. ❤️

View Quoted Comment I know, right? People can feel entitled. Congratulations, btw

I’m going through this right now. My wedding is three months away and I’m honestly over the family/friend drama. The best thing I started doing for myself is not seeking anyone else’s opinion besides my fiance and wedding planner. We’re paying for it outselves so everyone’s opinion doesn’t matter.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! And Congratulations!

Thanks congratulations to you also

View Quoted Comment Yes.. I'm so tired of it.. I have stopped talking to alot of the completely and blocked them.. but hopefully things will get better for the both of us. Congratulations to you as well!!

I am totally looking forward to the day being over and done with. I too am excited to marry my FH but the wedding itself is so stressful and so much anxiety. I have been a very laid back bride and pretty much went with the flow of things. FH parents are paying for the wedding therefore have a lot of opinions which I am fine with. The less decisions I have to make the better. I worry constantly about everyone being happy and everyone getting along (his family and my family tolerate each other). I know I cant make everyone happy and cant control people but this is what keeps me up at night. I just keep telling myself the day will happen and things will go wrong but I cant control everything and the day is about my FH and I. Hopefully I will be so involved in other stuff that I wont have time to worry about my concerns. My wedding is in 59 days and I am counting down the days til the day after when I can finally breath and relax.

Yes at times but will miss it when over. You are almost there! Good luck.

Yes, I have breakdowns every so often😂 .. I don’t even like being the center of attention, and most of the guests will be family friends through parents and we are paying for everything. I would do things differently if I could, I can’t wait for this to all be over..

Hear hear me too. We are getting married this June. However we moved into our house now (except for my clothes and toiletries.) My fiance has a six year old daughter that he has joint custody over so he gets her two nights a week. So when he has her, we interact as a family unit. It's harder to leave them those nights to go home.

Besides that though... It is starting to get to the point where I'm like... I don't care if we even have a rehearsal dinner, momzilla moments and all these decisions that I am not starting to care about anymore.