Is anyone else a little annoyed with the man not wanting to get married sentiment when it comes to marriage?

Ah yeah that makes sense it is a weird sentiment. It's like... Maybe IM THE CATCH AND HE GOT LUCKY

Clearly I’m in the minority, but they don’t bother me. I think they’re stupid, but I’m not offended by them. I just don’t think everything has to be interpreted as a sexist statement, and that sometimes things can just be silly and stupid because that’s what they are. If I went to a wedding where the couple chose any of them as the cake topper, I would get a chuckle out of it and that would be the end of it. Clearly no one means any of that literally, but people are allowed to have their fun in their own way.

I hate things that make it seem like a man's been forced into marriage. It's a choice between two people!

View Quoted Comment You can go to a t-shirts store in your city and have it custom made

It's so funny that I was at party city earlier waiting for my niece to try on a costume and perusing the wedding aisle. I found myself at the cake toppers and they had 2 versions of the man being chained or pulled back. So, I said to myself, "where's the female running away?" For being 2019, I have found that people are generally still stuck in 1934 - even folks who weren't alive then 😂. So, I'm not surprised at the imbalance with this specific thing either.

Oh my goodness!!! Some of these sayings have been told to me!!! Since I’m divorced and getting married again. I have family and strangers saying some of these same thing to me. Another ones are “Well when do we expect your next wedding after you marry this dude”?? Or are “You sure you wanna go and do this again, only to end in divorce again”!! “Are you going to stay married this go round “?? These sayings are horrible to say the least.

There should be a cake topper that has the man watching football, while she is doing laundry.....why is that only he is the portrait as the one losing.
I could never find a caketopper I liked, do just went with flowers.

I don’t like them either. FH wanted to marry me first! I’m not dragging him to the aisle kicking and screaming. As a gamer I absolutely loathe those Game Over shirts mentioned. It’s not a game over, player 2 just entered the game!

YES YES YES! It really bothers him and I and obviously we never realized just how much it's out there until we started planning but I agree with everything you said. The Mr Right, Mrs Always right always bother us and more him than I but I absolutely hate it. Glad to know we aren't the only ones.

These are the worst.

They promote awful, out-dated stereotypes, imply that it's not an equal, happy partnership to be celebrated, and generally make me question the health of the relationship.

I agree. They are AWFUL.

View Quoted Comment I hate that too, both men and women at my FH work say things like that to him, an older lady told him “marriage is hell, don’t do it” and other men are like “run while you can” (they’re married and frequently say they wish they weren’t.) my FH never says anything just ignores them to avoid conflict. But I would tell them I am sorry their marriages are so terrible, but that doesn’t mean everyone else’s is, also these people just so happen to be unfaithful and very rude in general, go figure.
When I went to my dress fitting the woman commented “it isn’t too late to run, can you run in those heels? Do you need a getaway car” and I politely but sternly said “I’m not going anywhere”.

I do not like these at all, I don’t even find them funny. The worst is the signs like a PP said, It’s too late to run here comes your bride. I just can’t understand why anyone would want a sign or cake topper like that but I’m guessing they find humor in them.

Wow, so many are offended by these! Personally I would never use one of those toppers, but I look at them like the joke they are lol. My fiance is just as excited as I to be getting married lol but we still joke with eachother about this topic, just yesterday when talking about where we'd each stay the night before. He goes "My last bachelor night at home ahh" and I said, "a whole hotel room to myself ahh" lol and we both laughed ❤

LOL these are too much! OMG I'm annoyed by these too.

View Quoted Comment I got this for myself since I'm very much a gamer. Thinking about getting him one too since we occasionally play games in the same room. Our first matching shirts.
https://www.redbubble.com/people/carbonclothing/works/15931977-achievement-unlocked-married?p=womens-fitted-scoop&rbpuid=bahjihhhagvhzgvumtzaz21hawwuy29tbjogrvq%3d--9478296320c79d036f537d9f701858d3829b10cd&ref=product-title&utm_campaign=2019_orderdelivered_transactional_&utm_medium=email&utm_source=rb&utm_term=28852592

People will say whatever they want but I’m not offended. My FH is 7 years older than me and had been married before so he was very open about the fact that he wanted a serious relationship and not to date around on our first date. We talked about weddings and rings on our first date weirdly enough. He’s not the type to joke about running, so when anyone makes these kinds of jokes it’s the opposite for us.

It is totally ridiculous and as much as some of the signs, can’t topers and shirts are funny the actual meaning behind it is insulting specially for us ladies. The whole “off the market” jokes I don’t get because I wasn’t off the market 7 years ago when I first started dating my now husband so again totally ridiculous.

View Quoted Comment Being a little annoyed and offended are two very different things and no one here is playing the minority or sexist card and making a political thing out of it. I think all anyone is saying here is that they dont like the comments they get and that their man gets like women are freedom thieves and men were forced to be there because we arent worth anything more than what's between our legs. Because all in all that is the sentiment. And if it were just cake toppers and shirts it probably wouldnt even be noticeable but when the comments from friends, family, coworkers and strangers permeate the wedding planning process and the marriage it can actually be detrimental to a womans confidence like her man may not want to be there. And that this is how we should raise our girls and boys since weve all heard the comments from childhood. As I said, it might be a funny joke if people weren't half serious but all in all I dont think anyone here is butt hurt over it. Again, its just a little annoying which is on a totally different level than offended. You can acknowledge something is a little off without having to make a big deal out of it *and no one here is* and you can also discuss something and the merit behind it without having to be some social justice warrior. It's called adulting.

Agreed. Just yesterday my own mom was saying don't do it Ali. Don't do it. Run while you can. You're going to regret it. My parents have been married for 37 years and my dad still loves her so much. Me and my FH have been living together for the past 5 months now and it has taught us a lot about each other. When you're with the right person, none of that stuff matters. It's all about the love between the couple. I am glad that I get to marry the greatest guy ever and my best friend. Getting married is not holding you back or tying you down, knowing that you love someone that much to where you want to spend forever with is an amazing and exciting feeling. My FH basically lets me be in charge of the planning but he's involved more than I thought he would be.

I agree with you 100% I hate how society supports the idea that men lose their freedom when marrying....