Is a Thursday night wedding an issue?

I'm a mom with an 8 year old. We go to all sorts of things during the week. Not every week but often. Sometimes the things are kid friendly (Disney on Ice on Wednesday at 7:30p.m.) sometimes not Beyonce concert on Thursday at 9p.m. We also have about an hour of homework every night. Violin, swimming ect. We are fortunate enough to have enough flexibility to be able to work in weekday activities here and there. I bet there are at least a few of your guests who are like us. Good luck.

Very true @E-Tex you make valid point too. I will definitely way the options. Cons vs pros. Thanks

My wedding date is on a Thursday; its also New Year's Eve. But if we hadn't decided on that date, I would have pushed for a Friday or Sunday wedding. A lot of venues offer cheaper rates on those days, so you can get more bang for your buck. And having a wedding on an "off" day can open you up to more options as far as themes, activities, etc. And if people really want to be part of your day, they will make a way to be there.

This is going to be unpopular, but I'm okay with that.

If your life is dictated by kids and their activities, then you say no, and that's fine; it's your choice. If you're good with a babysitter, fabulous; if not, you simply decline. (I'm not saying it's a bad thing at all; it's just a choice)

I've found that one of the best scenarios for weekday weddings is to have the cocktail hour first, so stragglers can be accommodated, then the ceremony, then dinner. It works out just great.

If it was local I would go, but would probably leave early. If I was really close to you I would go and take the time off from work even if it wasn't local. But I have a generous amount of leave time. I've been hearing about more weekday weddings, and I know you save a ton of money. I am having a Sunday wedding for that reason and because we wouldn't have met the minimum for Saturdays at the venues we liked. In my area traffic is so bad I prefer Sundays over weekday weddings, including Fridays. Even with a later start time you will get stuck in rush hour traffic somewhere. I will turn into a grump, and more people will be late.

Cocktail hour first for a weekday is a great idea!

Cocktail hour first? Who knew? That sounds like a good alternative. Thanks @Celia Milton.

Keep the feedback coming ladies, all this will help with my pros and cons list.

Lol I never said that I wouldn't attend a wedding based on my 8 year old. I actually said a few pages back that it's within the realm of possibility for me to attend a 6pm or later wedding, but I wouldn't stay late because I have to work.

I was just aswering Matt's non-rhetorical question about "doesn't anyone go out during the week ever?" No, actually, I don't....for non-special occasions. We just have too much going on for me to want to attend a concert during the week (concerts or anything "special" is about an hour away for me) with the schedule I have to maintain. The hour of homework is a total PITA and I think schools push the kids too hard....but I'm invested in my child succeeding so it is what it is.

@Chrissy, like Preo2016 said, I'm in NY also and Thursday weddings are veryyy popular. (I know Celia is also in the tri-state area). This may be a regional thing but I've been to a couple of thursday weddings and I know quite a few ladies planning their weddings for a thursday night. I think as long as you speak to your VIPs and they are okay with it, go for it (if it's worth it price wise, which i'm sure it will be much cheaper).

What venue are you looking into? I'm getting married on Long Island

I don't have kids, and I typically don't go out on weeknights. On Mondays I go to a yoga class that ends at 9 and that is late for me! My fiance goes to weeknight concerts pretty often. I used to go with him, but it is too hard for me to get home late and then wake up early for work. Like I stated earlier, I would make an exception for a wedding.

I'd do a local Thursday wedding, and like Spazzy said, maybe even take Friday off to fully enjoy myself. If you're going to do it, I love the idea of cocktail (happy) hour before the ceremony.

Hey @Jessica Long Island girl! lol. I am looking into Sand Castle Caterers. The place is really nice inside and they practically do everything for you. However I am trying to keep everything under a certain amount which is why I am even considering a Thursday. I would like to have my cake and eat it to lol!

It looks like this totally depends on your guests. As you can see from these posts, some people are completely on board with a Thursday night wedding while others would only go for close friends and family. I would poll your VIPs and maybe a few other people you're inviting and see their reaction.

Yes, I go out on weeknights occasionally. I wake up at 5:30 every morning so it's not often, but I do sometimes attend concerts or other events that go late. So if there wasn't travel involved, absolutely I would go! But I probably wouldn't stay as late or party as hard as I would for a weekend wedding. I have limited PTO and most of it is saved up for vacations, not for sleeping in and being hung over. That's just the reality of having a big kid job -- not all of us can request time off whenever we want.

@Chrissy ohh Sand Castle is right by my house! It's beautiful but I couldn't afford it lol. It's a good location though because it's Nassau County but not far at all from queens. I'm getting married at the watermill in suffolk county. It's about 45 min from me. The price is veryy reasonable and they're redoing the whole thing. It'll be done before my wedding so I lucked out

You should join our facebook group for long island brides. All the girls are a huge help! I know the page is private but here's the link, hopefully it works

https://www.facebook.com/#!/groups/2016bridesofliweddings/

Ooooh darn @Jessica I couldn't get in with the link. Thanks anyway for trying. I heard watermill is beautiful. The only reason why I am stuck on sand castle is because I want to be close to most guests and also they have ethnic food alternative options for my fiancé and his family. Food is kind of a big deal lol. I can't afford the current price they gave me, that is why I am negotiating for Thursday lol. We shall see.

I have a Thursday wedding at Sandcastles coming up on August 6th and my bride is doing her CH first

I am booked almost every Thursday in season and my couples have no problem filling the room. The people who love you won't miss it for the world. The people who just really like you a lot would probably rather take off a Friday than a Monday (Sunday Night is less costly as well, but I like Thursday) The people who can't fit it in.... they haven't earned their place at your table that night.

Just my 2cents.