Is a cash bar at my reception ok?

Kathy what I mean is you don't have to drink alcohol at a wedding it's a choice. So if you don't like paying for your own alcohol don't pay for it and don't drink alcohol at their wedding. It's simple and no one is forcing you to drink. I don't see why guests should get drunk for free if the Bride and Groom don't have it in their budget to have alchol free for their guests. After all it's your day not a day for your guests to get drunk for free. If these people pay for their own drinks when they go out then they can pay for them at a wedding. It's not their wedding to choose if they want free alchol or if alchol should be bought.

"Do what you are comfortable with"

And

"It's our wedding and nobody can tell us what we should or shouldn't do"

And

"It's your wedding do it your way how you like it!"

FFS.

Every wedding that I have been to that does this I leave early. If you want people to stay thru the dances and everything, continue to give them free booze. Yes it is expensive but maybe cutting costs somewhere else will help. Unless you are fine with people leaving.

The absolute fuckery on this thread

Is OP gonna come back at all???

My mom had a dry wedding and it was boring AF. People that drove 8 hours to be there (and bought gifts and paid for hotels) left early. I was also in a wedding that open beer and wine during cocktail hour, and then switched to cash bar. As a BM I missed my chance to score a glass of wine. I was so pissed. After all the travelling, expensive dress purchase, and drama, I wanted a free fuckin glass of wine. I left early, even as a BP member.

I don't eat seafood, but guess what, I'm offering a seafood option because my guests will enjoy it. The reception is for your guests. It's to thank them for being there.

We had to cut our list to properly host, (even though my family is super religious and doesn't drink. They're not the only ones there that matter) so can you! You can do it!!!

Cash bars are not "subjective", if you have been to an event with one, you run with a crass crowd.

I just hosted my kid's birthday party on the weekend, I had wine, beer, coolers, alcohol, juice, pop, coffee and tea along with a crapload of food. I did not ask anyone for cash for their drinks, in hindsight, maybe I should have, since it's obviously "subjective".

I'm doing a cash bar and not one person invited has a problem with it.

Well sure no one is going to say it to your face. I haven't told my mom or my friend that I thought it was dumb either. Because I'm polite. But I sure talk shit about it.

I really feel like the amount of these questions we get are troll posts. - No cash bar. No honeyfund. No asking guests to take out their wallet period.

Oh OP.... lurk my friend. Lurk some more and come back when you're ready.

No cash bar... cut on flowers, or cocktail hour, pick less dessert options, ***cut your guest list!***

NO!

Beer and wine but no cash bar please.

Lol I'm a lurker and these post get the most comments, crack me up everytime

I honestly try to understand the mentality behind a cash bar, but I can't. Just own your shit and say I am too cheap to offer alcohol, instead of coming up with lame excuses. If you are having a cash bar or dry wedding I am definitely not giving you the standard $150 I give. I give gifts to help the couple start their lives and obviously you've saved yourself a few bucks by deciding I should supplement your wedding so my help is not needed.

We will be doing cash bar and it is because of any event we have gone to with an open bar. People tend to over do it when the alcohol is free. That is not to say that no one will over do it with a cash bar. I understand it may be tacky but every wedding I have been to has been cash bar. I don't see it as cheap at all. It is not outside of my budget to have a cash bar, but I have grown up around alcoholism and I see what it does to people.

Everyone has different opinions. I believe guests should be hosted properly and they will be. But I refuse to have a cash bar. We will be providing either pitchers of sangria or bottles of wine. We have not decided yet. Our venue has even expressed their opinions about how bad of an idea an open bar can be.

I have read up on proper etiquette and as I have read that you should properly host your guests, I have also read that if in your area a cash bar is the norm, then you are safe.

Beer and wine are still a possibility. We have discussed doing this. I feel much better about beer and wine than I do hard liquor.

I didnt realize how hated cash bars are to clearly so many people!

@Andrea, I just want to point out how judgmental you sound. It is not for you to dictate how others should live. Do you really think it will make a difference to an alcoholic that the bar is cash vs. open? The only effect of having a cash bar is to appear cheap to your guests. You're not changing anyone's lifestyle.

Like I said, everyone has their own opinions. I don't feel that I am dictating how others should live. It doesn't make a difference to an alcoholic if it is open bar or cash bar, but open bar makes it easier. I can live with the fact that others may think I am cheap for a cash bar. Many people that are invited to the wedding have encouraged me not to have an open bar.

FFS-How many of these posts can we see? Every damn day it's some other person being a shitty host.....and then these double rings come out of the wood work telling her that's okay.