Is a bridal shower necessary??

I'm in a similar boat---we have everything we could possibly need and dont have any more room for more!

My friends have suggested a jack and jill party---rent out a room and have cocktails and appetizers. people stop by and say hi, leave an envelope with a card, and go as they please. No formal sit down or times or any events like opening presents.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Cally C I like that idea !!!

Really?? @Cally C I've never heard of a Jack and Jill party.

Yea I really don't have the space for items that we A.) already have b.) dont need but will scan just to fill up my registry. Glad to knowo I'm not the only one Lol

They aren't necessary, but often times a friend or family member of the Bride really takes pride in throwing one. If it's up to you to throw one for yourself, then the decision is yours, but if someone offers to throw one for you, you may want to take them up on their offer since they really want to be extra nice :-) Jack and Jill parties usually occur when someone combines their Bachelorette and Bachelor parties together...Bridal showers tend not to be joint sexes, but they can be. Mostly, the reason they aren't is that most men don't find showers to be all that exciting.

Ohhhhhh @Cassie I. I see what your saying, it would be rude of me to turn my MOH's offer down huh?? I just didn't want her or anyone else that's helping to waste their money on something that I don't really care for.

There is no need to have a shower. It is up to you.

It would not be rude to turn dow the offer. Simply explain to your MOH that you do not want to have a shower. If you want to have a gathering, you can still do one, and have your MOH say "No gifts, please". Or, if you wanted to, she could ask for items, or donations, to your favorite charity.

That would be your MOH/Bridemaids responsibility. Let then have one for you, and enjoy it all! You deserve it!

My MOH sent me a message last night saying the is thinking of ideas for the shower/girls night out. This is my 2nd wedding so i was going to skip the shower, i certainly don't need anything and don't want anyone to waste money on gifts but was all for a girls night out. I don't want to offend her, the jack n jill sounds fun

For each of my weddings, I have told anyone who threatened to throw a bridal shower for me that I would not attend if they did. Honestly, the idea of having to act ecstatic over the fourth toaster strikes me as torture, not fun. Plus, they perpetuate the whole idea that the bride, but not the groom, is in need of household items.

I am not having a bridal shower. When FH and I merged our stuff, we had so much excess. I had enough trouble trying to find things to put on the wedding registry. I couldn't imagine having a shower too LOL

Thank you ladies, I will have a small talk with my MOH. I'm sure she'll understand...hopefully.

@2nd Bride I'm in stitches, I was literally picturing myself forcing a smiles and Thank yous after opening the 3rd white blender..(sarcastic Yay) Lol

Can i have yours? LOL i wish my MOH wanted to give me one

@Cally C! Great idea!

This is my second wedding but my husband first..but i didn't get a shower this time.