Is $150 enough as a gift? (2 guests)

Give what you want to give.

Definitely give what you can afford.

I've always gift $200 for my fiancé and I when we go to weddings. At least cover our plates for the wedding even though some venues cost $130-$180 per head.

I would only give her the platter based on the fact that she made you pay for jewelry that SHE chose, and might be charging you for your rehearsal dinner meals. That's tacky AF and you'' be dishing out enough money.

My fiancé and I always give $200, kind of our rule of thumb. But do what you can afford, you've sprung for a lot and I'm sure they'll appreciate the gift regardless

I think 150 and a platter is ok but normally I might do 200 and the platter.

I get you spent money on bm stuff, but that just comes with bm territory imo

ETA - Also thinking and knowing about the dress rehearsal are two different things. IF you have to pay then you can lower the amount you give the next day. But she may totally be paying so I'd do $200 and the platter personally

@olivia $50 is so cheap... Proper etiquette is to give enough money to cover your plate (which usually estimates between $40-$90 a plate - in my experience. Obviously that's not the end all be all range) and some extra as a gift.

That's so generous of you. I've asked my bridal party not to get me anything because I know they've spent money to be in the wedding. Give what you want to. Anything is appreciated by most people.

You should not be paying for a piece of jewelry that is REQUIRED by her. if she wants you to wear it, she should BUY IT FOR YOU.

I think it is so...tasteless that she is asking her guests to cover their food at the rehearsal dinner. if you cant pay for your BP and immediate family, then don't have one.

We usually give $250-$300 to friends and $400 -$450 to family members, depending on how close we are to them.

From the brides/ couples standpoint I wouldn't expect anything at all, and the platter is sweet!

If I was the bridesmaid in this case I would give $100 plus the platter.

Side note- don't agree with you paying for wedding jewelry. I want my girls to wear certain earrings so I bought them.

ETA: just reading about paying for rehearsal dinner meal? I'd skip it! Or go and not eat and eat after! Rude rude rude.

I think that would be very generous. But do what you can afford, I'm sure the bride and groom will be thankful for any gift.

I generally give around $50 in cash plus a shower gift if I'm invited. I would love to give more, but I am also planning a wedding myself.

I've never agreed with the cover your plate "etiquette". The couple sets the budget and decides who they want to invite. They should do so without any expectations of gifts and certainly not gifts that equal the amount they're spending to have you there.Anyone with that mindset should just save the money and go elope. Gift what you can afford. If that means that you can only bring a heartfelt card then that's what the couple gets and should be gracious about.

I'll never understand tacky brides. In my 33 years of existence I have never seen, heard of or have been asked to pay for my own rehearsal dinner meal. If they can't afford to cover the cost of that on their own, they should not be having one. Do something small in the house, even. Just tacky.

You give what you can afford. Personally, if you were my bridesmaid I would be happy that you just covered the cost of the typical bridesmaid stuff and that you were at my side during my special day. And I genuinely mean that.

People are so petty with little things. You are doing more than enough and your gift is very generous. Don't worry too much about it.

Side story ... The last wedding I was in, I paid for A LOT .. even things the bride herself couldn't pay for, as I was her MOH and best friend. I paid for her shower because her mother was oblivious to the world and I got zero help from the other girls with planning and I know it's not their responsibility, but it's nice to offer to help because I, myself would do that. Not to mention, our dresses cost $300. A week before the wedding she came to me and said she didn't want me giving her a gift, which I intended on giving a very generous amount. She actually argued with me about it. So I didn't give it to her. I got her a spa day instead. A few months after her wedding, we were at another mutual friends wedding and people were talking about not having money for gifts and she told the whole table, with me sitting there 'a few people didn't give me a gift at my wedding, my best friend didn't even give me a gift for my wedding' and looked at me and laughed. The embarrassment I felt was incredible. Two weekends later I went to see her as she lived an hour and a half from me, I handed her an envelope with cash and said here you go. Our friendship pretty much ended right there. I know I could have reacted differently, but she didn't have to do that and embarrass me in front of all of our friends.

Kristen - I m so sorry that happened to you. Some people just suck and she just happens to be one of them. I would NOT GIVE THAT BISH anything!

I would go up to $200 for a good friend... my FH was in his best friends wedding ... $200 tux , I spent 60 for shower gift and we have $200 as a wedding gift ..

This event isn't a wedding, it is a vow renewal at best and I wouldn't give anything but a nice card. Since she made you pay for jewelry for her PPD and having you pay for your own food at the RD, just give the platter you already bought and call it a day.

This is so regional and individual

I've been to weddings where almost everyone was students and the norm was about $25-50 per couple

I've also been to some elaborate shindigs where it was $100 per person

In the end , I think you show your support for the couple in the way that makes financial and social sense for you

A wedding shouldn't be about how in gifts you get.

That is more than generous. I've only been a bridesmaid once, but I ended up getting roped into paying for the ENTIRE bachelorette party and bridal shower (her mother literally asked me to), a hotel room for 2 nights (I only lived 30 minutes away, but the bride really wanted the whole BP to stay in the hotel together), and 3 different dresses. When all was said and done, my "gift" to the couple was a frame- and not even one from their registry since those were all over $100.

How much would you want spent on you?

Emilia, wth? Do you wait for an invoice or what?