Inviting Someone When You Know They Can't Come

Even if they can't come, send it anyways, makes people feel like they were included and thought about.

We invited everyone regardless of whether we knew they could make it or not. There is always the hope that something changes and they can

I didn't! I didn't feel the need to waste my .49 20 times when I know they are not coming. Hey...thats just me!

You should still send them anyways. You never know, they could figure out how to make it work. And it saves a relationship from being strained/ hurt.

If after sending a STD they tell you they won't be able to make it, I wouldn't send an invite.

We are inviting a few people we know are not able to come, mostly elderly relatives.

For example, my great-grandma is nearing 102 years old and still going strong, but does not fly or take long car trips anymore. We are still inviting her so that she knows we are thinking about her and feels included.

We send STDs out already & some OOS guests have already said they won't be able to make it. FH told them that we will be sending an invite to all those that got STDs...just in case something changes. We feel this is being considerate & not gift grabby. Anyone that feels it is...doesn't know us.

We sent them anyways. Plans can change. I also included a note in a couple that said that we would miss them but that we were thinking of them and knew they'd be there with us in spirit.

Send the invite.

Invite! plans change and you're not asking then for a gift, you're inviting them to your wedding.

We sent an invite out to many people we knew who couldn't come but it was important to us to invite them. On the back of our RSVP, we had a place for well wishes for the brides. I have loved reading everything people wrote especially the ones who are unable to attend.

I sent out invites to people who said thy can't make it just so they still know they are someone I would want there. And plans can always change so at least this way they still have the option to decline it again.

Half of our guest list is "probably won't come" but we're sending invites anyways because it's nice to feel included, especially when it's family. My FH and I have been the ones to not get an invite "because we didn't think you'd come" and it hurt and kind of annoyed us since we could have definitely made it work to be able to go. Our wedding is easter weekend so there's no telling what people will do since people typically have a longer weekend that weekend.

Thanks, everybody Will definitely send to everybody

I did. I didn't even think of looking like im gift grabbing. I just wanted them to knoe they were invited. A few of them are actually going to make it after all!

I never thought my friend from South Africa (im in the USA) would make it, but ends up that she was already planning a trip to the states and just switched her dates to overlap with my wedding.

You never know!