Inviting Someone When You Know They Can't Come

Sending a wedding invitation isn't asking for gifts. It's inviting them to your wedding.

I have a lot of family who I know can't make it (most in fact) but they'd still expect an invite---- but this is one of the many reason people do not put any kind of info about gifts on invites! :-)

I'd say send the invite anyway. Sometimes plans change, and it's polite to send them an invite just in case.

We are absolutely inviting FH's grandma even though we know she can't make it.

@lillybean17 hahahahahaha

Yes @lillybean yessss

Lilly - Not sure how that's related but okay

I still sent the invites. The one person was my uncle so I knew he'd want to feel included. Then there was some elderly guests that I know don't go out much. So I didn't want them to feel left.

What's annoying is that the people I already knew couldn't come are the ones who could be bothered to send the RSVP's back.

I'm in the same boat, yes I would still send an invite even though you know they can't come. At least you are still thinking about them.

I believe if you send a save the date especially you should still send an invite. I agree though, it's a little tricky for us too depending on the person. Family who can't come I definitely will still send... but a few board members from FHs business regretfully declined as they will be away. I guess I'll still send them an invite??

I asked because there were mixed messages on this one. I was really curious about the answer.

For the record, I'm sending them all invitations anyway, but I read on another thread that sending them to people who will be declining is the same as asking for gifts.

Plus, I think it's pretty hypocritical that I'm not allowed to bring up comments from other threads, but you are.

We have people who we know are 'courtesy invites'. We can't NOT ask them b/c there are so many other family members that are invited. It's not asking for gifts, it's inviting people who you want to come. It is not your fault that they cannot make it.

Send them an invite and let them decide if they can or can't come.

I sent them because a lot of my family can't make it- but they would be majorly pissed if I didn't send them one. I don't know, maybe it's a cultural thing or something, but it's not because of gifts...

We're sending an invite to my fiance's grandparents in Iceland and Thailand, and it has nothing to do with expecting gifts. We just want to let them know that we're thinking of them on our big day, and if they can make it, we'd be happy to host them.

1) No one is ever required to give a wedding gift, the most that is required is "Best Wishes" usually in the form of a card.

2) an invite is not a summons.

3) plans change, they may come after telling you they cannot.

We invited about 100 people that we knew were not going to come because my mom insisted that everyone that I am related to in any way be invited. None of them sent gifts so i assume they didn't think that I was trying to get more gifts (that was NOT my intention). If they did think it was gift grabby then oh well because I have not seen most of them in 25 years.

Invite them! It's not gift-grabby

You should expect a rsvp out of every invite you send (even though that rarely happens, of it even happens at all). Don't invite more than you can afford because someone might surprise you. I'd send the invites, even though you know they won't be able to make it. It isn't gift grabby at all. If you print the address you want your gifts shipped to on the invitations, I'd consider you gift grabby.

I'm sending them to a few that I know can't come. I still want them to know I'd love them to be there and even though I know they can't, maybe they can pull it off!