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Inviting Some Siblings and not Others.

gabby, on August 23, 2016 at 9:45 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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OK so I need some advice and hear me out before you jump to the conclusion that I am horrible...

My fiance and I both have very large families - including large immediate families that we are not super close to(que years of family drama). Right not our wedding plan is that we are going to go away (Looking at Lake george were from CT) and do a small intimate wedding ceremony and brunch on long weekend. We are only planning to invite 20 or so people (i.e. parents, the siblings we are most closest with and best freinds).

We then plan on a doing a large rustic themed backyard wedding recepetion the weekend after and inviting everyone who you would typically invite.

I recently mentioned this plan to my mom and she made me feel pretty terrible for even considering not inviting all of my siblings up to the ceremony in LG.

So I am just looking to see if anyone has ever done anythign similar or if it would ever be acceptable have a wedding in such a way...

-Gabby

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Latest activity by Hourglass, on August 23, 2016 at 10:09 PM

Master April 2018
MNA · on August 23, 2016 at 9:46 PM
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That's what DF plans to do. He has siblings he barely knows (20-plus years older than he is) so he's just inviting the ones he's close to. He's one of like, a billion kids, though.
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Expert July 2016
MrsMamaP · on August 23, 2016 at 9:51 PM
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I don't have much advice unfortunately but just excited for Lake George! Enjoy we love it there!
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Amanda · on August 23, 2016 at 9:52 PM
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My FH's half brother will not be invited. I've never met him and he is never talked about as far as family is concerned. He doesn't come around for family functions & he lives locally. I think that's a very personal choice and only you guys can make the decision of whether to invite or not.
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A. L. · on August 23, 2016 at 9:56 PM
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My FH is not inviting his brother, as they are estranged, and he does not believe our wedding is a place to fix that. And it's fine.
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Allysa · on August 23, 2016 at 10:03 PM
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My fiance and I are currently dealing with a similar uncomfortable situation except it's with his father. Everyone that I have spoken to about the situation keeps reminding me that this is my day and that we make the decisions about who we include. My biggest fear was someone causing a scene and ruining the day. I advise that if you think there will be any drama to just avoid the situation. After all it is your special day!
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Hourglass · on August 23, 2016 at 10:09 PM
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FBIL will not be invited. Punching FH at their other brother's wedding pretty much cemented that.
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