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Danielle
VIP March 2018

Inviting some coworkers but not all?

Danielle, on June 12, 2017 at 8:03 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 22

I work in a small group of people that is rapidly growing. I've worked with 4 of them for 3 years. One works from home and I never see them,one is my mentor, one is my new boss and semi- friend and one is my friend whom I often see outside of work. We just recently hired two additional people. I was...

I work in a small group of people that is rapidly growing. I've worked with 4 of them for 3 years. One works from home and I never see them,one is my mentor, one is my new boss and semi- friend and one is my friend whom I often see outside of work.

We just recently hired two additional people. I was thinking initially I'd invite the whole team, but now that we're growing (and expecting to hire 3 more before my wedding day) I'm uncertain.

Is it okay to just invite the 3 that I'm close to? I make sure not to talk about the wedding at work and all that, but I worry about people feeling slighted afterward.

My coworker that's my friend is also getting married next year and only planning on inviting me and said not to stress it. Just invite who I want. But somehow that feels rude to me.

Has anyone else dealt with this type of situation as a bride or coworker who did/didn't get invited? What was your experience?

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  • Nikki
    Super September 2017
    Nikki ·
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    I work in a smallish office. I have 3 that I talk to outside of work and see/eat lunch with everyday. I'm inviting them and not the others. I don't talk about my wedding at work, I mailed their invites just like everyone else and made sure when someone asked my wedding date and what kind of wedding I was having at work, that I'm have a small wedding.

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  • K
    July 2019
    Kathy ·
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    But please extend to others who are not invited the social consideration of not distributing your invitations in front of uninvited co workers. I was appalled at the lack of thought and sensitivity on the part of the " bride" as well as my invited co-workers, who felt it necessary to wave the formal invitations around, discuss their fancy dinner selections, who they were bringing as their plus ones, etc. Then to top it off, throw the bride an office shower for which I paid for some of her kitchen/ dishware for the home , and have me work during the lunchroom shower, then the bride sends me absolutely no acknowledgement after I contributed to her gift. This is what I guess happens when the wonderful currently " sensitive" group known as millenials decides to get married and have their little fairy tale. I am sorry to sound angry but I would not treat anyone as I and other uninvited co - workers were treated and I hope somehow this bride recognizes herself and realizes this was inappropriate.

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