Inviting people from work

I think not inviting people from work is totally fine! Especially with 30 people, there's probably not much expectation among people to anyway. I have several coworkers who I consider friends who got married without inviting me (or anyone from work) to their weddings, and I don't think anyone thought anything of it. It certainly didn't impact my relationships with them.

How new of a job? Do you already have relationships with these people outside of work? I would think it was super odd if someone new started at work and invited us all to her wedding. Unless you have a close relationship with one/a few of the people there, I would just skip inviting any of them.

As long as you don't bring up your wedding much at work, I'm sure you're in the clear. Nobody should be offended or think any less of you, and if they do, they probably aren't someone you'd want a more personal relationship with anyway.

I think not inviting people from work is a good idea. Unless you’re super close with them. I’m inviting my former bosses (husband and wife ran together) but that’s all I’m inviting from work even tho coworkers really wanted to come i said no

Only invite people from work if you really would or do hang out with them outside of work.

I would say that your in a new job, depedning on your wedding date, you don't know the future and you barely know these pekple so they shouldnt assume to be invited (as no one ever should). I wouldn't worry about them till you send invites (if thats in the far future) if its soon then I wouldn't invite anyone. If you get really close with a few people then invite them. You need to make sure you accomodate however many you invite incase the off chanve that they all show up! Goodluck!

You don’t have to invite them. No one is going to expect an invitation especially since it’s a new job. My mom just got married and works with many more employees and she is very friendly with everyone and only invited one person out of the office to her wedding. No body was bothered by it at all. My FH is not inviting anyone from work unless there are an actual friend. You’re wedding isn’t an event for everyone to come to. It’s for the people you are closest with an want to share a super special day with! Good luck! Also not a dumb post! That’s what we are all here for!

I started two new jobs after I was engaged. One job lasted only a couple of weeks, so I didn't need to worry about adding any of them. The other job was at the synagogue where I grew up, so the rabbi (my boss) and his wife (my supervising teacher) and another teacher who helped me get the job (she was my supervisor fourteen years ago) were already invited since they are also friends with my parents, so I didn't need to worry about that either.

My advice to you is not to invite your coworkers. It is a new job and therefore, you might be under some sort of probationary period. You don't know how long the job will last, even though it hopefully will. If something bad happens, like you get fired, after you invite your coworkers or after they RSVP as yes, it would put both yourself and your coworkers into an awkward position. If they go to your wedding, it may put a damper on your day. If they don't show up after replying "yes," it would also put a damper on your day.

Since you're new, they don't need to be invited and aren't expecting an invitation. If you had been working there for longer than six to eight months, then that's a different story.

It’s a new job. Why do you feel obligated? I’d pass on all the coworkers. This is your wedding and your money... not some birthday party. So share it with people who are truly meaningful. FH and I are seeking to invite 75-80 of only our family and our innermost circle of friends. We have other circles but unfortunately they’re not invited (no hard feelings). And we definitely aren’t inviting any “Just Because” guests.

I dont think you need to invite these people who seem to be one step above complete stranger to you.
I'd be super annoyed if some random new person started at my place of employment and immediately invited me to their wedding.

Since your wedding isn't for a year I wouldn't invite any right now. However I would save a space or 2 because you may form a bond with one co-worker or perhaps 2. You said you have a hard time making friends but don't limit the possibilities. It's easier to become a "new" person when you've a fresh start at a new job. I encourage you to leave an invite open.

I have been at my job for a little over a year and there is only 8 people that I work with. I Invited my co-workers because when they noticed my ring some of them started to cry they were so happy for me - working that closely with people they become like family. I had people I would want to invite over others but I didn't want to pick and choose. But honestly if I worked with 30+ people I would have saved the space and not invited them.

Never feel the need to invite anyone out of obligation! If you'd invite them to other events (e.g. a dinner party) and you'd be upset if you weren't invited to their wedding, that's the point at which you might want to invite them.

I started a new job almost exactly a year before my wedding and didn’t invite any coworkers. No one is offended! I love my coworkers but they understand having to keep the list down.

I started a new job in March and I am getting married next month. I'm not inviting anyone from work. I like my job and my coworkers but I have only been here for a few months so they aren't offended at all.

First of all, this is a genuine concern of yours, not a dumb post at all.
I would say, save a few spots for now...if you become close to a few coworkers invite them.
Just don't feel obligated to include all of them. It's ok!
My fiancee is close to all of his coworkers...he is inviting 3...The bosses and one of his close buddies.

My best advice is to wait until invitation time!! First of all, you don't have to feel obligated to invited anyone just because you work with them. And as others have said, the best rule of thumb is to use the question "do I hang out with this person outside of work?" as your deciding factor! I've also approached it as "if I left this job, who would I stay in touch with this person as a friend?" and let that be my guide.

The best thing we did for our wedding was that husband waited and did not send save-the-dates to any of his co-workers. He knew he wanted to invited a bunch of people, but we waited until invitation time and it was a huge help! Three of the co-workers he would have originally invited left his company over the year and a half we were engaged. Some moved away, but none of them stayed in touch anymore so that was six people (his former colleagues and their spouses) that we didn't end up inviting.

So I'd wait on this decision and see who you're actually close with when you're a lot closer to the wedding date!

I don't think anyone will be upset if you don't invite them, especially from work. For me, we didn't send save the dates to anyone in our office. I did end up inviting my entire office, but only did I make that decision right before invites went out. You never know what will change in that time frame.

I'm not inviting any coworkers. I am the youngest in my office and I try to keep to myself cuz I am looking for a new job. Your wedding is also a year away so you shouldn't even be thinking about invites, just a guest list. In which now, for a new job, those coworkers shouldn't even be considered for the guest list. By next year, if you've grown close with some coworkers and it's time for STDs, then consider inviting them. Not now.

Totally not dumb to ask about this! If you're new no one will expect to go You can also say that the guest list was set prior to your coming on board there. I've been at my job for 2 years and I can't invite everyone. Loads of understanding has been shown. I'm at the same guest count as you without my coworkers. I just literally can't - that would blow our budget out of the ever lovin' water. Either defer to the guest list being set before you started working there or point to the budget being set and not allowing for any more guests to be added at this time. People should understand that and give you grace.