Inviting more than expected?

As long as your venue can fit and you can afford 135 if everyone comes, it’s fine. I wouldn’t invite more than you can afford or more than your venue max though.

You shouldn’t invite more people than you can fit or afford.

View Quoted Comment Okay makes perfect sense. I just wanted to be on safe side because I know at least maybe 15 people will not come

Why do you have to be “on the safe side”?
Even if you told your venue 120 and have fewer than 120 guests in the end, your venue should be okay with that?
Normally you give your total amount of people two weeks to a month before your wedding and at that point the number should be final. But before that you can have people drop out, it’s okay.

View Quoted Comment I said safe side because I have fear of them not showing up. That’s a normal fear for a big wedding for a bride to have. No biggie. Thanks for your reply tho. 🤷🏽‍♀️

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry, I wasn’t being rude or snarky. I honestly was just wondering if you maybe thought it would be an issue with your venue. I was trying to be helpful in case you thought the venue wouldn’t be okay with you saying 120 guests but having fewer than that.

I think this only works for if your venue can accommodate more people than 120. like if the maximum really wasn't 120.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the helpful comment!! Really appreciate it. And yes they can.

Agree with everyone else. Also if someone doesn’t RSVP you need to follow up with them to find out if they’re coming not just take the non RSVP as an answer.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!

I think it’s fine to expect that not everyone will come, BUT you should make sure you have the money and the space to accommodate on the chance that you do get 100% attendance. Way too many times on here do I see brides saying “well I invited 200 and 175 are coming, but my venue only fits 150” 🤦🏻‍♀️ So like, it’s fine to estimate that fewer than 100% will attend, but just don’t let yourself be in that situation if everyone does cone

Come* not cone lol

View Quoted Comment Great advice! Thank you so much!

I gave my venue a guarantee of 150 but my guest list is currently at 245 😩 so I feel your pain. They can accommodate up to 240 in the ballroom that I’m renting for the reception so we’re counting on a few people not showing up.

View Quoted Comment Wooooooow!! 😍

I would say you might have some you know won’t come and some might rsvp yes that you thought no. I would not go more than maybe 10 over the maximum. But if someone doesn’t RSVP you and your fiancé will have to stalk them. My feeling is if you didn’t RSVP than I assume you’re not coming and if you don’t respond to email/test/call, than don’t expect a seat. I don’t have a problem embarrassing your butt by making you sit in hall and eat a sandwich.

Yeah I originally told my venue 120 but my current guest list is more than that but we haven't finalized it quite yet.

My mother has been paying for most of my wedding stuff. The major stuff. Our venue can fit up to 350 or so in one ballroom and about 150-200 in a smaller one. I forget the exacts but basically I have a minimum adult count so I have to 75 adult guests at the minimum but I could have up to 150 if I wanted. Children under 11 are half price and wedding services like Photograpgy and video and dj also are included but discounted because normally you give these people a meal because they are working for hours on end for you. For my venue ( has a lot included) half price children and wedding services don’t count has full adult price and I have a few kids that may be attending and about 3 services included to feed. Given that it’s almost 99$ with tax per person, I didn’t wanna go far over my minimum because that’s another grand if it was 10 extra people but given that, I have 85 people on my guest list and the chances are people usually have at least several people who end up not being able to make it. This allows me extra people so if I get several no’s then I’m still around 75 people because even if only 65 came, I have to pay for 75 heads. So for this reason I also have people in mind as invites that would have been invited if we had the room since we are planned for October 30th this year and that may cause more no’s then I thought, and as rude as some people think that is, weddings are expensive and we can’t always fit everyone but if you have to meet a minimum requirement and can’t then I’d rather fill those spots with people I’d have like to come and couldn’t fit then not do a last minute invite and pay like a grand extra and not fill those 10 spots I am required to so all in all... as long as you don’t go over your maximum of people allowed then you can invite as many as you want until that maximum is hit. Shortly before your wedding when you turn in your guest list of people coming and then a few days before you finalize it and they adjust anything as far as payments so let’s say like me you have 75 guests down on your contract, if 85 come then when final payment is due the extra 10 people will be added and they adjust the final payment so if 85 people come to mine then I owe a extra 99$ for every adult extra which would be a grand$. Most places do adjustments at the very last visit because things change like upgrades and what not so just make sure you stay within your contracts maximum amount allowed and you should be fine’

I highly recommend putting a much lower number in your venue contract though (their minimum guarantee). Otherwise, you’ll be on the hook to pay for those guests even if they don’t show. For example, if your venue says their minimum is 50, use that even if you invite 120.

I think that’s how to do it... I’ll be doing the same thing...