Inviting: male or female first?

If it was two people living together, I just said "to the fantastic John and Jane" instead of "Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane"

I did not follow any set structure...

I havent addressed any invitations yet, but i know whoever im closest with of the two is who will come first. or maybe you could just address it to whoever your close with and allow them a plus one.

I listed the person I knew first and then their SO, unless they were married and then I put Mr. and Mrs.

I listed the person I was inviting and then the other's name second ... for example, my good work friend Heidi and her boyfriend Mike ... said "Ms. Heidi .... and Mr. Mike ..."

I also felt awkward putting someone first who I didn't even know!

I would find it very odd if I got an invitation from a friend who addressed it to my FH first!

I would list your friend first, then their date/SO/spouse.

Okay awesome, thanks for all the replies. Going with my first thought on this one and addressing to my friends first, then their dates. Thanks so much for all of the input!

I've actually seen more people say proper etiquette is to address the lady first in any situation. However, since we were inviting the guys and not exactly their live-in GF's, we put them first. I had two like this, so I just put Mr. Dustin ______ and Ms. Lori _____. I put Ms. because I knew that that particular GF had been married a couple times and was always told to use Ms. if they've ever been married or if you simply didn't know whether they were or not.

If they weren't married, I did:

Ms. Friend

Mr. Friend's BF

The "and" is only for married couples, from what I read. But if they're living together I think you can use the and if you feel it's appropriate for them.

^Ah! Thank you! I will not include the "and" if they're not married then, I think that bit of information was stored in my head somewhere because it sounds familiar now that you've said that...gah I am overthinking everything I think!

List the person you KNOW first, and i'm going casual and may only do first names, but i do like the idea of "the wonderful steve & sarah"

I think that's what I did. But as a side note, it's now proper to use Ms. not Miss. to address your female friends.

I just started addressing them as well! I did the same thing as LadyMonk. I did have a friend who was married, but didn't take his last name so in that case I just went alphabetical order on the invite.

Thanks Sarah! Wouldn't have known that...I have no idea what I'm doing lol. Megan, when's your wedding?

If they are married I did 'Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith'. If they are not married and I am closer to one, I used 'Ms. Jane Smart and Mrs. John Smith' if I was closer to the female, and in the order other if we are closer to the male. Good luck!

I also but the person i knew first

When I did my graduation invitations I put whomever I was closer too first. I've also heard that the female's name goes first before marriage and the male's name goes first after marriage.

I think whoever you are closest with should go first.

Ms female friend

Mr friends bf

I got an invitation addressed this way from my cousin, who had only met FH once or twice. I would have felt awkward if he was listed first!

Who ever is 'our person' if they are equal we did male first