Inviting guests to only drinking & dancing

That's so rude of the couple. I wouldn't go at all nor would I send a gift. They're only inviting you for the gifts at that point.

ETA clarity

I wouldn't go either. It's so rude to tier the guests like that.

That is horribly rude. I would decline. You clearly aren't important enough for a meal.

I would not be going.

I would decline. It was rude of the couple to not invite you to the entire wedding.

I wouldn't go either. I don't know why people think throwing a party like this is okay.

Tell your FH that it's rude to invite someone for just the dancing. Ugh. I wouldn't go. Seems gift grabby.

The couple getting married are the ones being rude. You're basically only coming for the last third of their event.

I would not accept, either. It's not rude to decline an invitation.

@Carrie H. I have no idea why he thinks it's rude. Maybe because it's a co-worker of his & we have gone out with her & her soon to be husband. So I'm not sure if he thinks it's rude because he knows he has to see her every day at work? Not sure entirely

I wouldn't go - I'd send an empty card

Nope, not rude of you to not go, but incredibly ride of them! I wouldn't go or send a gift.

If your husband wants to give them a gift have him tell the coworker that doing this may invalidate their contract with the venue.

Che palle.

What in the world?! I've never heard of this and my first thought was, "So this is what happens to the B-listed people?" But now I'm realizing it's like the D-list where the bride and groom only want your gift and to meet the minimum alcohol cap. Bet it'll be a cash bar, too.

OP, show your FH this post! We are a good mix of perspectives and personality so if there's a majority telling you it is rude of THEM and not you, it's likely truth. You would not at all be rude for not attending.

I would not go to this wedding neither I would invite them to mine.

They are definitely the rude ones! You were invited to an after party, not a wedding. (Likely for the gifts that you would bring)... ETA: I would only go if there were an open bar

Thanks for the advice guys!!!! Guess who will likely be busy that night.

I would decline, that's rude and sounds way too gift grabby. That's their way of getting something out of you without having to give something in return. You can go to a club to have drinks and dance, and you don't have to give a gift. DECLINE!

RUDE AS FUCK.

Drink and dance at home.

That is not rude of you to decline, its rude of the couple to do that to you.