Inviting exs family members

That is bizarre!!! I would be so uncomfortable. He definitely needs to tell her she cannot attend. Your wedding is about your two families joining, not his old life before you coming back into the mix!

You need to tell him how you feel. I'm really close with my ex's mom however she is not invited to our wedding. I would never want to make my FH uncomfortable. Or my ex for that matter. It's all kinda bizarre.

Ok so that's a little different , ask him why when he gets home and see if he can elaborate a bit

I am close with my exs mom too and am not inviting her. She is the grandma of my kids. He has met her and likes her but they aren't close. I told her exactly why I'm not inviting her. And she's ok with it

I don't blame you. Not appropriate even if him and her did have a good relationship. Has the invite already gone out? I'd be telling him your feelings because this is about your families coming together. Not his exes family.

We didn't mail an invite. He told her about it on fb.

Big. Fat. No. Just no.

I would bring up what you said earlier, this is about joining of the two of your families! He should be beginning building a relationship with your mother, not continuing one with his ex mil. Don't get me wrong if they have a relationship fine continue it but to invite her to your wedding is just rude and inconsiderate to you and your moms feelings. I know my mom would feel as though that was a sign as he was not interested in building a relationship with her.

Granted I also would have told FH that he was an idiot and I don't care the relationship they had, he removed himself from that family for a reason, she is not coming, and especially if it means his mom might cause a scene.

I'm going to talk to him tonight after dinner. Thank you everyone.

I would be very upset if this happened, especially if he didn't talk to me about it first. My H has no contact with his ex's family (and they do have a child together), though she invited his brother to her wedding, which I thought was weird, but not my circus, not my monkeys.