Inviting Estranged Family ???

I know that it's a difficult decision but I don't feel that it's in bad taste at all. You should invite the people that you want there. Think of those that you'd be upset if they didn't make it and think of those that it wouldn't bother you if they showed up or not. Then stick to your guns and if anyone questions your decision just tell them they can pay for it! lol Kinda kidding on that but seriously, I just blame my budget. Good luck!

The only reason my mom's brother is getting an invite is because he's local and she basically begged me to give him one just to make my grandmother happy. I fully expect him to decline though. As for my adult cousins, I invited the local ones but none of the non local ones.

Agree with Lala, I kinda have that same issue, I have some cousins I'm not close to at all and haven't seen them in a while so I've decided not to invite them.

If I haven't talk to you in three months or more (unless you're in school away or in the military), you won't make my guests lists, sorry.

I was going to invite everyone. Then my mom and dad told me I can pick and choose, so I said great! I removed cousins that I did not like or did not really know or see. I feel much better about my list now!

We're inviting my horrible aunt and uncle just so they don't make a huge scene when they hear that something was going on and they weren't included. They did that for the bridal shower when my aunt was inadvertently left off the bridal shower list. She wouldn't have gone anyway, and they RSVP to the wedding with just 'no', but not being invited, god forbid.

I'm not really in touch with any of my cousins, so I don't think I'm going to bother inviting them.

This has been my biggest WR drama to date! I am having a small intimate ceremony (was initially 50 and has been bumped up to 60) that I wanted to be just immediate family and closest friends BUT my father is one of 8 children and even though they are not close, he basically insisted that I had to invite all of his siblings even though I haven't seen or spoken to them in well over 10 years.

He literally looked me in the face and told me that my wedding is not about me ...it's about family!!!!!!!!!

I was so pissed off I felt like telling him since its not about me, he can invite whoever the heck he wants but I won't be there. I'll be getting married somewhere else. Anyway, my more rational better half (dear dear FH) talked me out of the tantrum and convinced me it wasn't worth creating a more permanent rift so I caved in the end. Still hoping they don't come though... why would I want to spend my biggest moment and something so intimate with someone who is not a major part of my life

I'm leaving out one of my dad's brother's and his wife.

Have any of them gotten married and included/excluded you? Is there some kind of family pattern established? That might help you, but if you don't want them there because it's been a decade that's fine too.

I'm not inviting any of my aunts and uncles- just my grandmother. FH is only inviting his parents and his brother/SIL- not even his grandparents. He's not close to them.

I'm blaming my budget, and I think most people understand how expensive weddings are these days. Invite who you want to invite.

I'm not inviting my cousins from one of my aunts. She passed away when I was young. There was a falling out between her and my mom when my parents got divorced. Ever since then my cousins do not assosiate with our family. I still don't know why, but I invited them to my son's first 3 birthdays. I never got any responses or anything. They also never invited us to their weddings so we are not inviting them to ours. It cut my family's side for guest list in half lol. We're saving a lot!