I recently got invited to the wedding of my childhood best friend. We were super close friends from about ages 6-18 (we are now 25) We talk a couple of times a year now. She knows my boyfriend, whom I have been dating for 9 years and even though they aren't big fans of each other they are still amicable. I received the invitation last week and it only had my name on it, so I asked her if it was only for me or both and she replied "I apologize we only have a limited amount of people we can invite for the space. It's still early but we are trying to add plus ones." I understand when people do a wedding without kids but I think this is different. I also understand she is having a small wedding, and that weddings cost money and ultimately it is her wedding so I respect that. But still, I took it a little personal.
I know my bf felt hurt but he keeps saying that that's my friend and if I want to go I should go. What is your opinion or take on this? What did she mean by the last sentence of her text?
I have asked several friends for their opinion and they all said that it was very wrong of her especially since she knows him and that they probably wouldn't go. Some said I should tell her to keep me in mind when they are adding the plus ones, but at this point, I feel like if she wanted him there she would've invited both of us, and if she later tells me I could bring him it's only because I mentioned something so it's going to be awkward. It's a tough situation. I know her whole family, I used to go on vacation with them. I will still feel out of place there alone because it has been a while.
