Invites to ill relatives

I think it's still nice to let people know that they're wanted even if they can't attend.

I would be very upset if I was ill and didn't get an invite. They should get sent. However, your fiance has a point that it's his family.

I think it is still a nice gesture...we have several people that we know can not attend for a variety of reasons, but are still extending the invite.

IMO it's actually respectful to at least send an invitation, that way it shows that you are thinking of them during your special time, and it gives those family members the option of a response that they choose. If you and FH make up their minds for them by not inviting them altogether, that may not boil over so well in the aftermath.

Agreed with Paris. We sent to anyone we wanted there regardless of whether or not they could make it. I would simply tell them "We are sending you an invitation b/c we would love to have you there. We completely understand if you cannot make it."

I'll keep working on my groom. we have a lunch date this weekend with some friends. thought I may ask the wife what she thought, maybe another perspective on this may help.

I love my groom, and he is normally a very logical and level headed man, but on this point I have to say he's being a idiot.

I know he has relatives that don't really approve of me for a number reasons, which is their issue.

I have a feeling that he may be trying to spare me the insult of a declined invite, but I really would feel much better if I at least sent one.

we'll see!

I would send one to them, maybe write a handwritten note inside saying we understand that your attendance is unlikely, however we didn't want you to think we forgot about you as we think about you all the time.

I think that'd make them smile.

We had guests in Japan that were getting stationed in the US within a month of the wedding but it kept getting pushed back so I sent them an invitation and told them we would hold a seat in their honor in case they do make it home, however we do understand if they are not stationed by then. Matt would love to see you if you're in town.

I find if you show him this thread, he might agree.

I'd be sad if I didn't get an invitation. It'll actually be MORE of a reminder that I'm unwell.

Both of FH grandmothers are pretty ill, they both got invites, but they included a personal note that although we would love them there, we understood if they couldn't make it, but that we loved and appreciated them.

Definitely didn't want them seeing other people getting the invite and wondering why we didn't care enough to invite them. Both declined, but I am happy I sent the invite.

I will be sending an invite to someone who lives on the other side of the world. They won't attend but they will be happy to even just see the pretty invitation.