invites-is it still 'not ok' to invite people without their spouses? kind of a touchy subject......

I have a similar issue, mostly because we had lived in separate countries before we met. There are lots of his old friends that I have never met and vice versa.

Some of my own friends who are more work colleagues I didn't have SO names for. First I checked them out on Facebook in case they were listed there, for anyone else I sent a personal email to the effect of "could you please send me your address and the proper spelling of your husband/boufriend's name".

Well said, Carrie.

You have time until you need to send out your invites.

If you have not had a dinner date or invited them over to your home before you need to send out the invites, then you don't need to be inviting them at all (in my opinion)

Weddings are expensive. If you are not close enough to them to hang out with them (and learn their spouses' name) then you are not close enough to spend $60 or more on them to attend your wedding. More guests = more centerpieces, more plates, more favors, more food, more invites... it all goes up with each person added to the guest list. If all you do is chat on facebook, then they can just see your pictures on the internet after the wedding. (in my opinion)

~ happy planning ~

"IMO it's a bit weird to expect someone to celebrate your relationship when you can't even respect theirs. "

it's not a matter or respect at all, just wanting to know if automatically inviting the spouse is expected in the midwest and seems that it is.

I'm ok either way, I'm just trying to get my guest list together & wondered if inviting someone with out the spouse is a option.

one reason I was hesitant to automatically invite spouses just because they are spouses is I've seen cases where the spouse was invited, couldn't go, then the main person on the invite assumed that it meant they were invited with guest and brought someone else.

it may be a regional thing, but where I live (the wedding will be in the midwest but I live in a big rocky mountain city) it's not that uncommon for people I know to be invited to events without spouses. particularly if you don't know them.

I guess it's because events so often happen in venues where space is so limited.

Thanks ladies!

I understand where you are coming from!

If I go not invite a girl I would do it in a heart beat but sadly she is married to FH good friend.

I just sent out my STD's and I stayed in contact with a bunch of people from high school I have never met their g/fs or b/fs on their STD I just addressed it to the person I know. But on their invite I will have to do some FB creeping to make sure I spell their name correctly.

And who knows maybe the S.O. won't want to go to the wedding because they won't know anyone? but yes you have to include them. Or just put guest on it if you're worried about their names?

"And who knows maybe the S.O. won't want to go to the wedding because they won't know anyone?"

that's what I was thinking as well. I myself go to events without my other half all the time, but I'm finding more and more that's rare.

think I'm going to do some asking around for the spouses names, if worse comes to worst and I just can't get the name of the spouse. I'll just go inappropriate and put 'and spouse'. Most anyone who I went to school with would probably understand that I don't know the spouses names.

we'll see how it all works out!

Spouses/Significant Others MUST be invited. However, you are not getting married until September 2014 so you have time to 1. Get the spouses name 2. For the relationship to either end and get better.

I would just ask for the spelling of their name, say you just want to make sure you get it right.

Significant others should always be invited. I like Emily E.'s response.