Invites! "chupin, Mickey, Titi" help

We went formal all the way for the save the dates. I wish I didn't lol. I'm just going to stick with it now for the invitations.

I was following etiquette when I did them and then realized that we pretty much went against what etiquette says to do for everything else. It doesn't really matter no one is going to be mad or feel weird or whatever because we used their full birth names but I wish instead of putting Joshua (or whatever other name) that I just put Josh because that's what we call him.

I personally don't think that wedding invitations are the place for nicknames. Sure, I don't usually call my aunt Mrs. John Doe, but I also don't write the time as "half past four" on a daily basis. If you're having a super casual wedding, I suppose it would be fine.

I personally think nicknames on wedding invites would be tacky. We went formal when we addressed ours.

I did less formal for the STDs but I already have the more formal version written out for invites. I just think it's better. We are using full names and the Mr, Ms, Mrs. My venue is pretty formal and wedding invites to me should always be formally written.

I have a feeling I'm going to go less formal just because my family isn't going to care whether the invite says Aunt V and Uncle D K. or Mr. and Mrs. K. We also like to joke that we were born in barns, so there's that lol. Everything is going to be informal to the max and that's just the way we live our lives.

I think it depends on what's acceptable where you're from! Where I am, formal addressing just comes across as really old-fashioned and outdated, so even for a formal wedding you'd be fine using casual addressing. "Mr and Mrs Samuel Surname" is read as sexist and "Mr and Mrs Samuel and Susan Surname" feels like it's been addressed by a stranger... "Sam and Sue Surname" is more comfortable. After all, I'm inviting people because I want to celebrate with them, it makes sense to treat them like friends on paper! I'd probably only use nicknames that are abbreviations of real names, though.

Of course, I think it's just as meaningful when people want to do things the traditional way, and it always does feel like a bigger deal when someone uses your formal name. Formal is fancy, but just not my style. So no criticism either way!

I remember growing up, my mom and I helped my aunt address her invitations when she got married. Back then, wedding invitations were even more formal than they are now, and most of the time, they had an inner envelope AND an outer envelope. So, the custom at that time was to put the formal names "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" on the outer envelope, as that's the one the post office would see, and the mailman, etc. Then on the inner envelope, you would put the nickname, or whatever name the person went by in daily life, or what you called them, like "Uncle John and Aunt Mary" or "Bobby and Martha". It didn't matter how formal or casual the wedding was going to be. The invitations were very formal, and had many parts to them. That hasn't changed! lol

Spot on!!!