Invites and returning on time?

Most people wait until the last minute to send back their RSVP. If you gave them a deadline, then wait until a few days after the deadline, and start contacting the people you still haven't heard from. You'll need to give an accurate head count to your venue and/or caterer, so you need to know how many people are coming. It doesn't have to be a big deal, just something simple like "we haven't heard from you yet, and wanted to know if you're going to make it to our wedding." Usually, as the deadline approaches (or the date you have to give your final head count), more urgent messages to the people who still have not responded, like "we have to give our caterer the head count, so if we don't hear from you by XX date, we'll have to count you as a no. We'll miss seeing you!"

Just wait until the due date, and even a few days after. Plenty of people throw the RSVP into the mail on the due date. Once it's been a few days, you and FH can reach out to the people who haven't gotten back to you.

Thanks girls! I will wait until June 5

We got a lot more as the deadline came. Wait a few days after the deadline then reach out with a simple "hey we didnt receive RSVP from you, will you be able to make it?"

View Quoted Comment I did this and still so many haven’t responded. Ours is online even! Tonight was the cut off z now fh says that people have the right to come even if they don’t rsvp. I’m like wtf?!? I’m so incredibly stressed about this.
Good luck this rsvp stuff is the pits!

As a procrastinator, sometimes the due date means it's due at the post office. It's a flaw. But I'm not the only one who thinks this way.

People forget! My friend did this and it reminded me to send it.. She put a post on FB the week the rsvps are due and announced to friends and family the rsvps are due ___ date. I thought oh crap, I have to send that! I think it works, and helps to not have to round AS many guests up after the due date passed. I will do this. I am not concerned with people saying "tfti" (thanks for the invite) lol most of those people on the outskirts of our friend group joke saying that about everything. They're acquaintances and I don't feel bad. My wedding, my chosen guest list

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No, your FH is mistaken. The whole reason you ask your guests to RSVP is because you need an accurate head count. I don't know about your venue/catering in particular, but most contracts either have a minimum you have to pay for, or, like ours, you pay for the number you give the venue. Example: you invite 100 guests, but only 70 RSVP yes. The date for the final head count comes, and you tell your venue 70. If those 30 people who didn't respond show up anyway, there isn't going to be enough food for everyone. I mean, maybe your caterer is anticipating this, and has some extra food. But the head counts are there for a reason.

You should make a list of the guests who have not yet responded. Get in touch via email/phone call/text/messenger---whatever works for you--and politely remind them that you need to know a firm yes or no. If you can't get that by the time your count is due, you need to count those people as "no."

I'm sorry you're going through this. I know it's really stressful. I've enjoyed my planning so far, but I'm not looking forward to this part of it. Good luck.