Invited to the cake cutting but not the wedding

To dinner or just for the cake cutting?

The cake cutting? as in the reception?? ive heard of folks invited to ceremony but not reception which is a big faux pass but if i got invited to a reception id probably go--to give my good wishes to the couple.

Is it just a cake and punch reception?

Unclear if it's just a cake and punch reception for the acquaintances but I heard through the grapevine that the roommates are having a formal reception but I was invited to the cake cutting.

I don't even know what "the cake cutting" is if not the reception. I mean... You're not invited to the full reception?

I've been to a reception but not invited to the ceremony. Less rude than the other way around. I still don't like tiered invites.

Id pass, but what i would do is go to dairy queen and pick up my own cake and celebrate on their behalf at home. Who doesnt love the crunchy middle?

In the UK, it's common to invite very close friends and family to the ceremony and wedding breakfast. Then to invite extended family and friends to the evening reception.

Hmm...I would feel a little slighted; but would probably go to show my support. Besides, who doesn't like cake!!

I just took a peek at the Facebook invites again. The acquaintances state that their event is just for the taking of pictures and cutting of the cake. Registry info posted. The former roommates say that it will be cake and drinks. They're having a wishing well.

My thoughts:

The combination of being told at the last minute (both are in the next two weeks), plus registry info being posted make me feel as if I was invited because I'd bring a gift.

Oh well, that's odd.

Evening invites for us here, mean the fun party bit!

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Oh, so gross.

It sounds like you were invited solely for your gift. I would RSVP declining the invitation.

Very weird. The only thing I can think is that they're extremely limited for space at the church or wanted to have an intimate ceremony. But that doesn't justify not inviting you to the rest of the reception, if they're having more.

Oh God, is this going to be a new trend now. Are we going to have posts asking for cute cake cutting invitation poems. My wedding can't get here fast enough.

To answer your question, if it was an invite to the full reception I would consider possibly going, if it is just to watch them cut a cake and give them a gift I would pass.

Sounds like gift-grabbing to me. The whole thing seems really tacky. Especially being invited through Facebook.

It's a gift grab!!! Don't go

I love how the list the registry info though smh i wouldn't go.

You received two of these invitations? Wow. Are you in the US (I only ask because weddings in the UK sound like they're structured differently than weddings in the US)?

How would I feel about receiving a FB invitation -- complete with registry information -- to a cake cutting portion of a wedding only two weeks before the event? Well, I'd think a few things. The first thing I'd wonder is why I didn't receive a formal invitation weeks earlier. I'd want to know why I was grouped with last minute people on a FB invite. Then I'd wonder why I wasn't invited to the ceremony. After that, I'd probably assume that there is a reception and I'm only invited to the end of it. Lastly, the registry information would be enough for me to decline. Whether it's a cake cutting reception or a tiered reception, there's enough here for me not to be interested in making the effort to travel somewhere for a piece of cake. I am in no way opposed to cake and punch receptions, but I do believe the same guest etiquette applies to cake/punch receptions as full meal receptions (and that precludes FB group invitations, last minute invitations, and registry information).

I know some people pull together a wedding in a matter of weeks, and emails/phone calls can substitute for formal invitations in those cases. However, those quickly arranged weddings usually include the nearest and dearest, not former roommates or a friend of a friend of the couple.