Invited to bachelorette party but not the wedding...

Can’t you just decline the bachelorette party? That’s what I would do.

You answered it yourself -- I'm betting you were invited to help out with that heft price tag you mentioned. That's a rude-y patootie right there to invite you when you're not invited to the wedding. Feel free to stay home that night. Heck, even if you do end up invited to the wedding I'd still stay home that night.

I would say thanks for the invite, but decline.

I would simply decline.

I tried that, especially since I have a weekend job where the shifts will vary greatly and are unpredictable but I got thrown back into it

You're not that close with her and it seems like you're not close enough to be invited to her wedding, so as PP have said, respectfully decline.

Decline, quickly.

You’re letting this happen if you got thrown back into it. Say “I’m sorry but I can’t” and leave it at that.

I would def decline, it's so rude to invite someone to bach/bachelorette party and not the wedding. I would be offended.

View Quoted Comment Agree. Who is throwing you into it? Is someone pressuring you to go? Why? How? Your time. Your money. Your choice how to spend it.

No is a complete sentence. "I can't make it" is all you need to say.

Just don’t go.

I wouldn't jump into being offended. I have been at a couple bridal events where people were invited and attended, but not invited to the wedding. It was because the MOH was planning the event and made an assumption, which was then uncomfortable for the bride. But if you don't want to go, don't go.

I would probably just say thank you, but I won't be able to participate / attend and leave it at that. I wouldn't worry too much about etiquette because her MOH is the rude one in this instance. Is it possible the bride doesn't even realized you're invited to her bachelorette?

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I would be offended by the MOH not the bride, I guess I should have clarified that.

I wouldn't waste any energy trying to figure out how I was invited. I would simply decline.

I would politely decline. If you’re already uncomfortable with the invitation, imagine how much more uncomfortable you’d be if you went? Just say no.

I would just say no thank you.

It seems odd, but there's still the small chance her MOH messed up somehow and didn't realize. I wouldn't go, but I wouldn't worry too much about it either.

How exactly do you know that you're not invited? Gas someone who has actually seen the guest list said you both aren't on the list?

I would just politely decline. Simply just don't go.