Invited Guests Bringing Extra People

People are unbelievable ---im not surprised many of us here have had similar things happen!

you need to let these people know that your are at max capacity and can not accommodate for extra guests to come along! how rude of them

I truly do not understand some people. Simply tell them that you CAN'T accommodate these extra people. Do not feel rude about reminding your invited guests that YOU DON'T KNOW these people and they WEREN'T INVITED to your wedding, oh, only the most important day of your life. Tell your invited guests that if these uninvited guests do show up, they will be embarrassed because they will not have a seat and will not have a meal.

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I'm afraid of this too. I was super specific on the rsvp cards and I've had to tell a few people no. I'm doing a seating chart so if people bring extras that will sure be embarrasing for them.

Sometimes I wonder if these type of people live under a rock! Weddings have a cost per person inviting one invited guest okay I can let that slide I wouldn't like to attend a wedding alone but to bring several people in no way is that ok. I would say this our big day and we would love to have only people who know us and can truly support our big day.

Its like no one has ever hosted a wedding before or they have amnesia. Ridiculous.

I swear people are so rude and inconsiderate sometimes. I have had to tell the few friends from my list who are single right now that they will not be able to bring a guest unless they start dating a few months before the wedding due to budget. Thankfully they are understanding but, I have had a few friends have this problem. I guess once we get closer and start getting the RSVP's back will be when I find out if people do this to me. I would have to call them and tell them nicely I'm sorry but, the venue only has enough room for a certain amount of people. I cannot accommodate the others.

Simply call and explain (sooner than later) that you're sorry there was some confusion and that unfortunately while you hope they can still come you can't accommodate their extra guests due to budget and space at the venue. Then stick firm to that. Don't let them push and try to convince you to allow it. If it means they can't come, oh well! Remember: THEY are the one's being rude, not YOU.

Can you not say to him "Gosh, I'm so happy for you! The problem is that we are tight on our budget, and we just can't afford the $400 ($350+20% gratuity, plus alcohol they'll drink) extra right now. I'm sure they will understand." Then you're making it clear it's HIS problem that he invited them without asking, and that you're not budging - or, he can offer to pay. Which he won't.

I wouldn't accommodate these extra guests at all. Its rude for them to think your wedding is an open house. Ridiculous!

I wouldn't either. They come alone or they don't come.

"Our venue won't accommodate any extra guests. We're hoping to see you but we understand if you can't come" You rude, inconsiderate trolls.

We had several people do this. Very rude. I was prepared to say exactly what Celia wrote, however, we are so far under even our expected numbers, that it wasn't worth the hassle to us. However, we are the exception not the rule. We still have the prerogative to say "we can't accommodate your extra people" as we are hosting the event.

WTF is wrong with humanity.

This happened to us as well and I also thought it was rude. We had enough last minute cancelations/no shows that the numbers ended up being about the same, but it's the principle. Ugh. Hopefully you can cut it off in advance.

Do what celia said! i would not be so polite, people are ridiculous

Um, nope. The nerve of some folks....

So unacceptable. We did have one distant aunt invite her son, and we're letting it go because we're under our numbers, but the bitch in me wants to figure out a way to let her know that she was totally wrong for inviting him.

So rude! It's like no one has ever thrown a wedding before and they don't understand how these things work

You'll feel better if you do more than vent. You really should take charge of an expensive event that you are hosting and tell them NO. It's lovely that he found his two sisters, and I'm sure they can all go out to a nice restaurant and have a reunion dinner on their dime, but simply deciding that they are coming to your wedding because they'll be in the area on that day? Just no. He can decline the invitation and spend those hours with his sisters, but it is outrageous for someone to think your wedding is the place to get acquainted with long lost siblings. Absolutely Outrageous. I'd call tomorrow and straighten this out.

Well...I would facebook, tweet, Skype, airmail or what ever is necessary to inform them this is invite only. and to ensure this, I would request bringing invites at the door...without one....you cant get in! problem solved.