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Invite two brother living together

Sarah, on April 1, 2018 at 6:33 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13
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So I know etiquette says that any adult children living at home receive their own invite. But my question is about two brother that have moved out but still live together. Neither of them are dating someone, so we aren't adding a plus one for them. Would it be rude to address one invite to both brothers?

Knowing the type of guys they are, they honestly wouldn't know if I went off etiquette for them, but it's something that would bother me.

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Latest activity by Mrs Robes, on April 2, 2018 at 3:53 PM
  • Sarah
    Master June 2016
    Sarah ·
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    They should really be sent their own invitations. What if one opens it and forgets to tell the other one about it?
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  • S
    Savvy July 2018
    Sarah ·
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    Good thought, that is something that would happen!
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  • Alondra S.
    Expert September 2018
    Alondra S. ·
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    I sent two separate invites to two brothers living together.
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  • Melanie
    Dedicated June 2018
    Melanie ·
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    I sent one and put the oldest brother first.
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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
    Mrs. H ·
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    If they're all living in the same house, I see nothing wrong with sending 1 invite addressed to everyone. It seems silly and redundant to send 3 separate invites to the same house... plus those are pricey
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  • Kristin
    Super May 2018
    Kristin ·
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    We had a similar situation - adult brother and sister living with their dad (their parents are divorced and the mom is the one related to FH so no reason to invite the dad). We ended up sending one invite to them, but put their names on separate lines so that they wouldn't think we thought they were a couple.
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  • P.F.
    Super May 2018
    P.F. ·
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    Send them their own. I have the exact same situation and sent them their own invite. I also invited 2 sisters that were living together, both got their own invite.
    All adults get their own invite unless they are in a relationship or you invite their children. That is the only time you combine.
    I accidentally sent the brothers the same save the date and I was kicking myself for it but I made sure to send separate invites.
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  • P.F.
    Super May 2018
    P.F. ·
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    To add: I also have a cousin living with her father. Still gave individual invites. I don't want her to feel like she's less of an adult or less independent just for keeping her widowed father company
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated April 2018
    Elizabeth ·
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    I sent my adult cousin who lives on her own her own invite (obviously) after double checking the address with our grandparents. I also sent her sister, who lives with their parents, her own invite. I got the sister's RSVP, and then the parents parents sent back their RSVP for 3 out of 2 and wrote "+[cousin that lives on her own]" on it so.... I guess it just really depends on who they are as people. You mentioned the one that opened it might forget to say something? I'd probably send one each then to be sure.

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  • Bianca
    Super August 2019
    Bianca ·
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    They need their own invitations; they're both adults.

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  • ACD
    Expert October 2018
    ACD ·
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    This is the one rule where I feel different when it comes to etiquette. I think its fine if they get the same invitation, unless they have dates. For example, we have twin brothers who have a house together with their two girlfriends so we are sending one to twin1+girlfriend1 // twin2+girlfriend2 if that makes sense

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  • P
    Expert June 2018
    Pina ·
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    I sent one invite to a few family friends whose adult children still live at home with them. I know they won’t be offended...and I know I’ll have a better chance of getting the RSVP back in time with mom or dad filling it out!
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  • Mrs Robes
    Devoted October 2018
    Mrs Robes ·
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    I think it’s a know your crowd thing, someone I’m close to I probably would just address one invite for because my friends wouldn’t care, that is if they don’t have significant others. I’m actually in a situation where I need to send 3 invites to one house; two adult children and their dates and their parents.
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