So my FH and I are having a disagreement on who to invite and how to handle invitations for our wedding in December. He has a large family and I think he wants to invite everyone. We have about 130 adults and about 60 kids.
Issue #1. Since we really don't have the money for it I would love to cut some of the kids. These kids are kids of his nieces and nephews (grandchildren of his siblings) so I really don't think he needs to invite them all if we don't have the funds. I really can't get him to budge on this. The kids are not the best behaved and he thinks they will all be little angels at the wedding (clearly he has never babysat). I only know about 20 of these kids and at everything that I went to they run around chasing each other like headless chickens. He blames my niece and nephew for being a handful. These are 2 kids versus the 58 kids on his side! This is mostly venting, if anyone has suggestions I'd appreciate it.
Issue #2. My FH has a b-list, he wants to invite more people if some can't come. I don't have anyone else that I need to invite to the wedding. I'm at the point of just telling him that he has to handle it if he wants to invite b-list people. He is telling me that his people need to be sent out invitations by mid-September and we need their responses by the beginning of October. What I want to do is send out the invites at the end of October and tell people that we need their RSVP by the end of November because the wedding is on December 21st. My question is, how do I even get RSVP cards with different dates on them, or can I just have him write in RSVP dates? His suggestions are too complicated for me to handle, but I know him well enough to know that he will get overwhelmed by it and then hand it back to me to take care of. Can anyone tell me how to handle this? Not having a b-list is not an option.