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Nikki
Super September 2017

Invitation Mistake...How Would You Fix It?

Nikki, on June 23, 2017 at 12:21 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 33

So when I sent out my save the dates I very carefully made sure I addressed only invited guests. Our venue can only hold 100 people max so anyone not in a relationship was invited as a single guest, with only their name listed on the envelope. I already ordered my invitations (i have them in hand)...

So when I sent out my save the dates I very carefully made sure I addressed only invited guests. Our venue can only hold 100 people max so anyone not in a relationship was invited as a single guest, with only their name listed on the envelope. I already ordered my invitations (i have them in hand) but I did not add the "_ seats reserved in your honor" line. Now i regret this since it appears people do not understand they don't automatically get a + 1. Would you add something to the RSVP card? Write something on the back question mark inside the envelope? Get another insert? Or do nothing at all?

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  • BeachBride2016
    Master November 2016
    BeachBride2016 ·
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    Yes, definitely have new RSVP cards printed so people can indicate the number of seats needed. Otherwise, you'll have no idea if your "single" guests understood how the invite was sent to ONLY them - they may show up with a plus one you hadn't accounted for.

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  • Emma
    Master May 2017
    Emma ·
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    We didn't put that line in and we didn't have any trouble.

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  • J
    Beginner September 2017
    Jessica ·
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    Look! This is your day and you have the right to say who can't bring a date or not. I am having my mom or Aunt make those phone calls because people in my family are bold and some that didn't get invited are trying to find out where it is so they can make arrangements. Be firm and I wouldn't suggest re-printing them.

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  • Mrs. Algarin
    Just Said Yes November 2017
    Mrs. Algarin ·
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    I had to reorder our RSVP cards because they were too dark to write on and forgot to include the number of seats reserved line so we decided to do inner envelopes and add the information below the names of the guests.


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  • Sos0033
    VIP September 2017
    Sos0033 ·
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    From what I've seen, people will ignore the "seats reserved in your honor" anyway if they want to bring someone.

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  • Caitlin
    Expert July 2017
    Caitlin ·
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    I didn't have a line indicating how many seats. We had 2 lines for guest name(s) and then asked them to initial their food choice. So far nobody is bringing extra people. I guess it's a "know your crowd" thing. We also gave everyone older than 18 a plus one though

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  • MnmsMonique
    Super June 2018
    MnmsMonique ·
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    You could redo, Since it's only 12 people, you would only have to redo 12 or whatever the lowest multiple is. Or you could just address it with the individual if they RSVP for more than 1. Shouldn't be a big deal since it would only be at most 12 people.

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  • MnmsMonique
    Super June 2018
    MnmsMonique ·
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    Or could you even type up a nice note, stating they only have one spot reserved and place it with the invitation.

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  • BookcaseHat
    Master July 2017
    BookcaseHat ·
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    I wouldn't bother printing new RSVP cards.

    If people are going to be rude enough to try to bring extra guests, a line saying "we have reserved __ seats in your honor" isn't going to stop them.

    Most of the time, rude people simply don't care that they're being rude. You'll have to follow up with these people either way to let them know they can't bring extra guests.

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  • Nikki
    Super September 2017
    Nikki ·
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    @Rachel, you read correctly, only about 12. Everyone else has an SO that I personally addressed on the STD's.

    @Everyone..thank you all for all of the advice/suggestions!

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  • StPaulGal
    Master July 2017
    StPaulGal ·
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    I highly suggest the wording "___ of ___ attending." It will give you the most precise responses since it shows whether both people in a couple will be able to make it or not.

    Definitely re-order if you can afford it.

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  • Kris10
    Devoted May 2017
    Kris10 ·
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    I didn't have that line on my RSVPs and only had 1 issue out of about 150 guests. We gave him a plus one but he also wanted to bring his parents and siblings, so we just called and said we couldn't accommodate them.

    I'd say don't worry about it!

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  • lyla
    Master July 2017
    lyla ·
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    The "We have reserved ___ seats in your honor." Didn't work for me at all. We still had tons of people RSVP for different numbers. Not sure it was worth it honestly...

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