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Invitation dilemma

Danielle, on July 26, 2019 at 4:44 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6

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Ugh. Here's my dilemma. My Dad passed away almost 2 years ago and no one from my Dad's side of the family is coming to my wedding. I invited my grandmother on my Dad's side and the last of his sister's who are alive and neither are planning on coming. My mom thinks I need to invite my 2 cousins (brother and sister) from my Dad's sister that has passed. Neither of them are really a part of my life. At my Dad's memorial my female cousin took pictures (originals) of my Father off of the tables without asking if she could have them which hurt and disgusted me. I would have been happy to make copies for her but instead of asking she just took them and my best friend witnessed it. My male cousin hasn't done anything wrong but I just didn't invite him because he is not apart of my life. I'm sorry for such a long post but my mom feels I need to invite them so I can have someone from my Dad's side of the family present and she is paying for the wedding. I just don't know if I should give in and invite them or not. Advice is appreciated!

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Latest activity by Kayla, on July 30, 2019 at 9:31 PM

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Elizabeth · on July 26, 2019 at 4:52 PM
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Invite who you want and the people that are a part of your life.
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Nikita · on July 26, 2019 at 4:56 PM
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Unfortunately, since she's paying, ultimately her choice and she can invite them. Personally, I wouldn't want them to be there either and would seriously let her know/talk her out of inviting them.
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Clíodhna · on July 30, 2019 at 7:24 AM
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Hi there Danielle.
As Nikita mentioned, as your mom is paying for the wedding, she does have input on the guest list.
I would advise you to have one last discussion with your mom and explain your reasons for not wanting them at the wedding. Even if this discussion results in them still being on the guest list, at least you’ve said your piece and can move on from the topic.
If you aren't that close with your cousins, even if invited, they may not attend!
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Ashley · on July 30, 2019 at 12:29 PM
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I would not invite them. This day is for you and your FH and you should only have people there that will bring you joy and help you to celebrate
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Martika · on July 30, 2019 at 1:05 PM
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This is a hard one. Because she's paying I say she does have a big input on the guest list and other major stuff. However, put of me believes you shouldn't have to be around people you don't speak to. If I were you I would talk to your mom, about your opinion. if other people from that side of the family isn't coming the chances are they won't come either.
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Kayla · on July 30, 2019 at 9:31 PM
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I agree. Unfortunately, if she's paying, what she says really goes, but there's probably room for at least some dialogue with her about why you don't want to invite them.
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