Invitation Argument

I did together with their families as we are in a similar situation but i don’t think our parents cared! I would definitely talk to him...

So because there are both sets of parents and the groom contributing, the proper way to word it, to the best of my knowledge is “together with their families”. We used this on ours because we are paying for the majority of things as a couple but we have had help, both monetary and DIY/emotional support, so we put “together with their parents. I think that it’s up to you but you should speak to your father and let him know that the in laws & FH are contributing and only putting his name would be very rude to them.

View Quoted Comment This sounds like a different situation, you’re paying for a large portion, majority, and her father a small portion. That is only the brides family contributing and doing Mrs Jane Doe and Mr John Doe is appropriate as the in laws are not contributing but when the groom & the in laws are contributing they should be acknowledged I think the bride here needs to decide one of 2 things
1) will she be ok listing out everyone
OR
2) would it make more sense to say “together (groom is contributing) with their families (both sets of parents— well at least the father.)”
to me option 2 makes the most sense especially if it’s going to look over cluttered & odd to list everyone with long last names.
If her inlaws weren’t contributing then I would 100% agree with you, but because they also deserve recognition I respectfully disagree.

I originally chose a design that said “together with their families” and after talking to my parents decided that I would compromise and put everyone’s names on the invitation. I had to start over and pick a more open design that allowed me to include all of the names in a large enough font. In the end of the day even if they are not paying for the wedding it is a respect thing, and not worth any hurt feelings.

I think it should say together with our families. My parents are also giving us significantly more than FH's family. Since I am not trying to offend or upset anyone, we will be using together with our families on the invites. Luckily, my parents are fine with it saying together with our families and my mom was actually the one who suggested that instead of her and my dad's name.

We put "Together with family and friends"

You can also put "together with their parents" if you want to be specific about who is paying.