Invitation Argument

I would sit down and talk to your dad and explain that are contributing as well so it would be proper to put "both families/together with our families". It would be different if it was just him 100% paying for everything.

No, we put "Together with our families" it will be fine, tell him his name will be on the programs.

It's worth the argument to your father obviously. It's a point of pride for him that he's saved and is able to provide for you in this way, and I tthink he feels the "together with our families" bit implies that he's not hosting . I can see why he's hurt.

My last name has 4 syllables, so I understand about the long names thing. But both of your families also have long names, and your friends obviously know your last names, so I don't see how that would make an awkward impression to them.

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This might help a little. I don't really see and issue with "together with our families" but if it really means a lot.to him and he is contributing a substantial amount I would just list every one out. Obviously your friends and family know your last names and they won't be taken aback by seeing them.

I just left last names off entirely. I hate my last name, and my FW's not terribly fond of hers either. But we both have pretty unique first names, so I guess if you have common names it could be confusing?

Our invitations would’ve been a hot mess...both of us come from divorced families sooo we just opted to say something like “you are invited to the wedding of “ and then our names and the details. that way it wasn’t too much space & confusion.

Im on your side, but I also see where your dad is coming from and probably not worth the fight

“Together with their families” doesn’t look bad but if your Dad feels that strongly about it, then I’d think about whether it’s worth the argument. Has this been his only request? If so, then maybe consider his feelings. I’ve seen invitations that list two divorced sets of parents so it can be done.... they were just text.

If your Dad is old-fashioned, he's probably not going to compromise. I promise I'm trying to help. Choose your battles wisely.

I would try to go for the "Together with their families" as it is the truth. If your dad is really stuck on it, try to see it his way and remember this: People will get it, plug the into into their phones or datebooks an recycle the invite.

I think 50% is still a nice chunk. If this is his. If request is would find a way to do it. Working with your stationery company to have it all fit and look nice. I'm sure they deal with this frequently.

Are you DIYing your invites or working with a Graphic designer/stationary company?

Honestly, if he's adamant about it list everyone. Graphic designers/stationary companies deal with this all the time. If you can explain to him the complications and how strange it may look you may be able to swing it.

I think "Together with our families" is the best option in this case since he is not paying on his own. It wouldn't be fair to everyone contributing to be left off, or to expect you list every person out. I would just explain this to him.

I had this same issue so I ended up putting “Together with our parents.” I explained the names were too long and they liked that compromise.

I think if you can list everyone (since everyone is contributing) you should if it will make your dad happy. It doesn't really matter if the invites look a little cluttered. As PP's have said, this happens all the time and stationary companies are used to it. If it looks truly absurd, show him a mock up and see if he changes his mind.

We also put together with our families!! Definitely accepted, and I don't think your guests really care (or even notice) in most cases, it's moreso for you/your family. Do what's best for you - together with our families seems to be the most accurate from what you described.

Talk to your dad. Maybe your invitation will say "Together with our families" but he will give the first speech at the reception to make it more clear that he is "hosting".

Would "together with their parents" be a compromise that would appease him? Keeps things from being cluttered but is also more specific and to me sort of indicates their contributions. Otherwise, I'd probably let him have this. It might be less formal but you could leave off last names as PP suggested. You could do something like this:

Bride's name Lastname

Daughter of John and Mary

to

Groom's name Last name

Son of David and Sue

to keep it from getting too busy

As the MOB who is contributing over half to the wedding I agree with your dad. I am also divorced, his parents are contributing nothing, with her dad paying for the caterer. Her invites will read Mrs. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe are requesting the honor of your presence....Her father is remarried and she will not be listed on the invite. It may take up a couple of additional lines of the invite. Personally I would be hurt if together with the families was on my daughters invite. JMO

I was in a similar situation where we put "together with the families" but made sure the parents names were included. A matter of respect IMO.