Invitation and Dress Code

They are adults. I'm sure they can check the weather and dress accordingly without you telling them.

You can't tell your guests what to wear, Simple as that. They can wear whatever they want too.

(Unless your having a true black tie affair)

If they wear jeans... how does that affect you? Guests aren't really the focus of any wedding day pictures. I personally would never wear jeans to a wedding but if that's what a guest wants, that's on them.

Unless of course, you're having a Black tie wedding, not black tie optional, whatever that is.

Let adults dress themselves. Honestly what difference does it make to you if someone wears jeans?

Your invitation should imply the formality of your event (note that I did NOT say YOU tell them the formality, but the wording, paper choice, and style of the invite should indicate formality). Unless you are having a true black tie event (which I don't think you even can at a winery) you say nothing and stop caring.

Just like you've always dressed yourself for a wedding, your guests will do the same! The only reason a dress code should be listed is for a black tie event. It could be considerate to let people know that it is an outdoor ceremony on your wedding website but you shouldn't tell them what to wear.

Don't really have any advice for you other than what has already been stated, but we have the same wedding date and are in the same state! Best of luck with your wedding, I'm praying for nice weather!

I think it's a good idea to share the outdoor/indoor thing, but other than that I wouldn't say anything about it. That little piece of information is enough to let adults decide if they want to bring a jacket or wear something sleeveless if it's hot, which will be good for their own comfort. But as far as stating a specific dress code- I wouldn't. I think most adults know that jeans aren't really appropriate wedding attire and they can handle looking nice enough on their own.

The only situations in which you can politely mention a dress code is if you are hosting a wedding that is black tie (yes, I know, plenty of brides say they're having them, but they're not), or white tie (and if your wedding isn't costing you more than $200K, you're probably not having a white tie wedding). White tie events are usually political.

For a reminder, a black tie wedding (one of two affairs in which a bride can mention a dress cole) includes an inscribed, black and ivory/white invitation, an after six ceremony at an elegant ballroom venue (no barns, farms, back yards, or fraternal organizations), valet parking, cloak/coat check, passed champagne flutes on a silver tray, an over the top cocktail hour featuring limitless passed apps, two lives bands (one to take the place of the other when the first band is served dinner -- if you're having a DJ, you are not having a black tie affair), a full, top shelf open bar -- all night (if it's beer and wine, you're not hosting a black tie event), a sommelier (a professional who will talk to each guest and match their dinner wine to their meal), table side, white gloved ordering of dinner (complete with, "How would you like that done?), expensive, opulent centerpieces that were created by a floral designer, not the bride and her family, and an exquisite Viennese table.

White tie? Unless you're a governor or statesman, you're not hosting that level of wedding.

Let them wear what they choose.

Thanks for all the insight! I think it sounds best to just note the whole indoor/outdoor thing and let the dress code be. I'm a control freak by nature but also have to learn I can't control everything

If you want to mention anything about the outdoor/indoor-ness, the website is the place to do it, not the invitation. I noted on my website that "the ceremony will take place on the lawn at 3" so people could be prepared and not wear spiked heels. I worded it that way so it seemed like I was mentioning the time and location, and not telling them what to wear. Like pp's have said, don't mention a dress code.

We put a suggested dress code on our website. It's more like guidelines if people are unsure. Don't put it in the invitations unless it's a black tie wedding.

I agree with mrscoakley, put it on your wedding website

I agree with mrscoakley, put it on your wedding website

I never realized everything that went into a black tie wedding until I came onto this site. I went to a so called black tie wedding once and all the men wore tuxes and the woman wore evening gowns. There was a DJ and no passed champagne on silver trays. I guess it wasn't a black tie affair after all but it sure was amazing to see everyone dressed in formal wear.

I added dress code to my website. Not proper according to WW but I did it anyway. I have found that most of FH family, which are the people that would show up in jeans, have asked me personally what they should wear. No I would not have a panic attack if someone showed up in jeans but to me the attire of the guests has a lot to do with the feel of the event. Just like at the "black tie" wedding I attended.

You can put it on your wedding website but not your invitations. I personally didn't want to mention it at all but my FSIL wants me to put it on the wedding website so she can point to it when assisting FMIL and her boyfriend to choose their outfits for the day (they tend to dress inappropriately). I don't know yet.

We put the outdoor/indoor information on our website on a FAQ page. That seems to be the best and easiest thing to do.

Unless you are having a true black tie wedding, and from what you e already said, you definitely are not, you don't get to dictate a dress code. If people show up in jeans, it's on them. Suck it up and deal with it. Just because you're getting married doesn't mean you get to tell people how to dress.

I agree with grown ups will grown up. If someone thinks jeans are appropriate, they're going to wear them no matter what the invitation says.

I'm getting married outside in a garden and having my reception in a ballroom and it's in upper central Florida. I wrote about the location on the wedding website. I did this because when my family visits Florida, they visit Miami which is always hot. I wrote something along the lines of the average temperature at this time of year is 70s during the day but can go in the 50s at night. This way people can decide if they want to bring a jacket or anything. I didn't mention dress, just location things that could lead to dress options

You cannot dictate what people wear to your wedding. As much as it would be shitty for someone to wear jeans...oh well.

Agree that it's rude to mention a dress code on your invites. Also agree with adding something to your website for those who would like guidance on what to wear.

My wedding is also at a winery venue. I got asked by a few people so I put it on the website. I stated the ceremony is outdoors. I also stated semi-formal in the attire section of my Knot page.