Interracial Wedding Advice

I've always dated interracially, and thought I'd be having the same problem. Last summer I sat down with my aunt and had a heart-to-heart about it, and it was really nice. She explained some of her objections, and I explained why I disagreed. Turned out to all be unnecessary since FS is white, buuuttttt....you have to do what's right for you. Personally, I don't care about blood. If you're a bigot, I don't like you. Case closed. I would cut them off. I know it's harsh, but I have no tolerance for people who think that way. If they can't support you, they don't deserve you.

This type of Crap pisses me off! If they dont support, then dont invite them to your wedding. Matter of fact tell any one who has a problem with yal being together to kick rocks.

Why do they have a issue with you marrying a black man?

I would no send them an invite, what they said is insulting!

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It really pisses me off that over the years they acted like everything was fine and in reality they were being two faced...it surprises me even more that my granparents out of all people in my family are gung-ho about coming bc they know he is perfect for me...and yet my cousin chose to make that kind of statement....

do you think it would make them feel bad if I still sent an invitation? The bit** in me was thinking if i sent it anyway maybe they would feel like they had to get a gift haha jk...thanks for the advice everyone--do yall have any suggestions for making this wedding go more smooth with the combination of both families?? Ways to help them interact and feel more comfortable??

I wouldn't let it bother you. My husband is black and I'm white. My family had problems with interracial dating when I was younger but now they are okay with it. Some people just grow up different. My fam is from La so that's a kinda no no down there. My uncle, who has been a baptist preacher his whole life kinda turned it around. He says it doesn't state anything in the Bible about interracial dating and nobody has the right to judge anybody. Sorry to kinda rant and bring religion in this but It drives me nuts too.I would say invite them and if they don't want to come they don't have to. But be happy either way. Hopefully, they will come around.

If you don't support my marriage, you are not welcome to attend my wedding, period!

Yea LA is bad....I am from SC and more and more everyday I realize how ignorant and hypocritical people are!! thanks and you are right!!

Suggestions on how to make the wedding go smoothly???? Make it your wedding and don't worry about anything else. Whatever you do, there is always gonna be people not happy. That's in anything. Do what you want to do and how you want to do it. That's what I did and everybody had a great time because we did.

I had to add some pics. : )

Mary you guys are a beutiful couple & i love the pics are yal doing the cha-cha slide lol !! Maybe with the seating arangements mix it up ! dont have all the black people on oneside and the whites on the other side!!

Our momma sitting by each other. They were so happy...because we were. When your family truly loves you and want you to be happy.

@Abryanna-Thank you! I think we were. That's a good idea too. We didn't have "sides." Everybody sat where they wanted to sit.

I say if they don't support you, don't invite them.

I wouldn’t send them an invitation, what’s the point if they don’t support you? I would also suggest maybe having ushers direct people to their seats, I went to a wedding last Sunday and it looked very segregated when each family sat on opposite sides.Try having them mixed up a little bit.

M&M WOW you and him look sooo freaking good looking together! He looked so proud to marry you :-)

No invitation u never kno how vindictive pple can be come and make u uncomfortable, save urself the stress hun DO NOT INVITE THEM try to make amends after the wedding..not before

If they cannot accept the man that you love then they shouldn'e have the privilege of attending your wedding. It's a day to celebrate your love for one another and you don't need people there that will bring you down in any way

@ Molly C. I am also marrying interracially. I would say not to invite them to the wedding. You don't want to run the risk of having them do something at the wedding or at the reception to upset you. This is your day to feel like a princess and to be happy. If they don't agree with you getting married, respectfully tell them that they are not invited because you only want people there that love both of you and who want both of you to be happy.

I hope that all works out well.

By the way, for those of you who are from Louisiana and say that it is hard, please be mindful that it can be difficult every where. I don't think that being from the South has anything to do with it. There is ignorance every where.

You guys have to understand through that older generations was RAISED to not like african americans and that is not their faults. Try to understand that they were raised like that. Still give them a invitation and let them adapt to the idea of you guys in their time. Trust me people who love you, come around. My grandparents do not like African Americans BUT they accept it when my mom date one.