Interracial Marriage

FH has to deal with granny and tell her she's being a bigoted shit....and if she doesn't start to respect her grandson's future wife, she will be missed at the wedding. It's sickening people are still like that, I'm sorry you're going through that. You almost want to say, well I'm sorry you're a bigoted shit white person who is still living in 1865.

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Wow, I'm so sorry you're going through this! What is wrong with people? FH has Chinese/Mongolian parents and we are both Americans, but he is a first generation American. Luckily everyone has been very supportive. My family members were supportive when my uncle got married to a mixed woman, but after their divorce 20 years ago, my uncle quickly married a Kenyan woman (like a month after the abrupt divorce). My mother and grandparents didn't go to the wedding because of the fast turn around with this woman they didn't know, but to this day they are convinced it's because of my aunt being black. This causes family drama from time to time. I wish we could all move past the era of racism and white supremacism. There are few things more idiotic.

This is unfortunate. I'm in a mixed relationship too. Age doesn't excuse bad or disrespectful behavior. My beloved Grandmother was 100 when she passed a few months ago and she adored my FH. He's Caucasian and I'm African American. I was raised to be kind to ppl based on The Golden Rule. My FHs family have issues. They haven't said anything to me personally but wasn't very friendly or accepting when I attended a family event. My FH and I have talked about this extensively as we're no nonsense type of ppl. He originally wasn't planning on inviting his half sisters (he have 2) but I at least wanted to offer an invitation. If they don't come no problem. But if they do and say or do something stupid I have no problem having them removed. I'm not tolerating hatrid. It's unnecessary and sad these ppl and negative thoughts exist in this world.

Be strong and be prepared to say something if needed. I wish you well.

OP, I'm so so sorry that you have to deal with this. I agree with PPs that your FH needs to talk to his grandmother about her racist behavior and how harmful it is. Communicate to him how much it hurts you. I am also in an interracial relationship and though our families have been wonderful throughout our relationship, if anyone said something racist, I would take them off the guest list immediately.

Also, age is not an excuse for bigotry.

I consider FH and I extremely lucky that our families love us as much as they do. He was very upfront with his family when we started dated. My whole family loves him as if he's been with us forever. I can tell it took his family awhile to get used to the fact that I'm black, but they have been very open and nice and have been very supportive of our relationship and are chipping in a lot for the wedding. While I can't relate to being subjected to mean comments by family, I know it can still be hard to even go out in public without getting stares. Be open with him and let him know how you feel so that you guys can address this sooner and start your marriage on a solid foundation.

We are interracial (I'm black he's white) and many family members on both sides were not supportive of our relationship. We just didn't extend an invitation. And we're living happily ever after.

My Chinese mom told her mother to F off when my gma complained that my Dad was white. My mom and gma did not speak for a year, but then my gma realized she was wrong.

He needs to stand up to his Grandma. That is not ok. And if he doesn't he is disrespecting you. It is fucking 2017. This stuff should not be a problem anymore.