Insane Cost of Weddings

And she's using the protest of a huge injustice to make a joke about how "weddings are expensive amirite guys?'

@Susan I'm sorry I would find it funny. If I didn't have to worry about being shot to death when I left my home every morning.

Look, I do think somethings are nonsense in regards to the wedding industry (specifically the "it's MY day!"-fueled drama they can trigger with their "it's YOUR day!" tactics), but here's the thing:

It's ONE day for the couple.

There's a level of perfection expected for wedding services. Caterers have oneshot for the food, HMUA has oneshot for the make-up, an officiant has oneshot at the ceremony, the photographer has oneshot at capturing a milestone, etc.*

(Note: Obviously, some vendors get trials, tastings, etc., but when it comes down to it, a wedding tends to be the final product (excluding vow renewals, etc.))

Pricing is done not only for the sake of business and profit, but to reflect that higher level of perfection that is expected of those in the wedding business to make this one day for the respective couple to come together.

Pricing is effected by many things; geographical location, guest list, and the type of wedding envisioned (ex. casual brunch wedding vs black tie affair), to name a few.

Shop around. Cut your guest list. Pick which aspects are most important and find the things you wouldn't mind cutting back on (ex. photography w/o videography, skipping programs and favors, not sending out save-the-date's, open beer and wine only, etc.)

Hahah existence is pain!! Let me die Jerry. Lighten up, I'm just a random person on the internet. I'm not going to take away from the protests in any shape or form. They're still just as valid before I made my joke. I still support them. Everything will be okay.

I see digging oneself into a deeper hole is the new thing to do on WW

I really wish we could see who is liking stuff on WW. That would be a great enhancement for the new release.

@Keisha, Right? I feel like after I made my comment she could have been like "OK guys sorry" but instead she came out with that Rodney dangerfield bullshit and excuse that it's still funny. sorry not funny.

What? I didn't day it doesn't affect me.

Or instead of saying "lighten up" you could admit that your joke was in poor taste and apologize for it?

I'm just waiting for a "I'm sorry if you were offended" and we'll have Tone-Deaf Bingo!

Please Jesus don't let the obligatory 'I have a black friend' be the next post. I'm trying real hard to stay long enough to post my wedding pics.

See, I spend my time writing a nice long reply to a post to be helpful before reading the whole post, and I miss some nonsense.

Goodness.

100% agree - hence why I decided to do a DW.. it will cut the costs in half (if not more) and I get a 4 day vacation out of it.

It's the only time we'll ever host 225 guests.

Trying to get back on topic...

The cost of the wedding is exactly what you make of it... I looked at a venue that I absolutely loved. Then I saw that it was 4K to rent on a Sunday and an extra grand to have the ceremony. Woah! I found a second choice venue that had no rental charge and I can get away with my venue, food, and drink cost for 55 people for not too much more.

I should note that I live 4 miles west of Chicago and am having my wedding right here in the suburbs.

It is what you make of it. List out your priorities and define what is important to you. Is upgrading your linen important? What about the china?

Then remember while this is an important day, the truly important part about it is that you are starting a new chapter with your best friend and your nearest and dearest want to celebrate with you. Don't get sucked into the over-the-top expense because in the end - does it really matter?

Lol at a DW being cheaper. Mine was def more expensive than doing it locally but I guess it depends on how you host

I priced almost every venue in my area before we decided on anything. Whats important to you? We said from the beginning we wanted to throw an awesome party with great food and drinks, and then go on an amazing honeymoon. Just remember you don't want to start your marriage off broke.

If it's too expensive, elope and have a nice time with just you and your new spouse

Yes everything is expensive:0

I'm having a beautiful disney wedding and it's not near 35K at all! Shop around see what's out there. Yes wedding are super costly but you'll find ways to cut where you need!

It is expensive! I kept thinking I was doing so well, choosing the cheapest venue, cheapest awesome food we could find, getting some discounted/free vendors services from people! And it's still looking like we are going over budget! (Face palm) I love planning but I'm so over spending money this year! I was in 2 weddings this year, and my FH is in 1! We've spent way too much this year - yay weddings