Inlaws taking over

They drive three hours every weekend to see you guys? Were they doing this before you guys got married? If FH is not listening to you to address the issue I suggest couple's counseling.

No. That's just not ok. That's abnormal, invasive, and inappropriate. And going to get way worse when you have kids. Get that under control asap.

That would piss me off too girl!!! I would sit him down again and explain to him that this is not ok with you and let him know that him ignoring your feelings is very hurtful.

Im sorry you are dealing with this and i hope it gets better

That's ridiculous! I wouldn't want ANYONE visiting me every weekend.

Were they like this before you were married? This is exceptionally clingy behavior.

The two of you need to sit down and have a serious conversation about this. Let him know that it is not okay and suggest that the two of you speak with a therapist. You need to work on your communication skills as a couple because ignoring difficult topics is a recipe for relationship disaster.

As posters on many discussion boards about dealing with in-laws would tell you, you don't have an in-law problem, you have a husband problem. Would he be thrilled with the idea of your parents inviting themselves over every weekend? No? Then he needs to see things from your point of view. Marriage is about leaving and cleaving. You two are a unit now; he needs to stand with you.

That would totally piss me off as well. You're newlyweds for god sakes! I think that's rude of his parents. What's the reason for it? Do they think you guys don't know how to be married without them? Ridiculous. Put your foot down now cause it will get worse when/if you decide to have kids!

That is just completely invasive to me. Sit down with your husband and if you have to, your in laws as well. This is the beginning of your marriage, it doesnt need either one of your parents in your way all the time. After you sit down with them, if they still don't listen, I would put a lock on my bedroom door. Thats just me though lol.

You have a few options:

Have your husband discuss with his parents that you guys need some time to settle into married life together, so let's have the next visit can be around thanksgiving.

Or:

You can get a bigger place

Or:

You can visit them on the weekends instead of them coming to your place

Overall, I think PP are right that you have a husband problem, not an in-law problem and you need to discuss this with him and reach some reasonable agreement and enforce those boundaries with the in-laws. Whether that's that they visit one weekend a month or whatever is up to you, but set some boundaries already.

My petty side thinks you should start leaving lingerie peeking out of drawers or scatter some condom wrappers around the bedroom before they arrive this weekend, but that wouldn't solve the underlying issue, although it might get them out of your bedroom.

Ummm kick them out of your bed. This is not ok for them to invade your space. Tell your husband to cut the cord and speak with them. They have crossed boundaries

You shouldn't be displaced in your own home

No is a complete sentence.

Yeah, this would never fly with me. Thankfully, it wouldn't sit well with FH either so I'll never have to worry about it. It would seriously piss me off to have company every weekend. Especially if said company thinks they have a right to MY bed and expects me to sleep on the couch. Nope. No freaking way. Your husband trying to ignore the conversation instead of listening and discussing the situation with you as his wife is disrespectful to you. Your needs and wants should come before his parents. I would try to address this again and make it impossible for him to ignore you. Lock him in the bathroom with you (kidding). Turn the tables around him. Ask him how we would feel if it were your parents/family displacing you from your bed every weekend. He might have a different opinion then.

I'm curious, though. Did he live with his parents up to the point you two got married?

Your husband seems to have difficulty with boundaries around his parents. This will not improve without some focused work in couples therapy.

"We love you and appreciate that you want to be a part of our lives but we would like our weekends to be OURS. Let's limit the visits to once a month, or once every couple of months."

Were they like this before you were married?

You need to sit down with your H and explain that this arrangement is not ok with you. You then need to come to a mutually acceptable agreement, whether that be that your ILs stay in a hotel, that they only visit every X weeks, that you visit them instead, that you meet in the middle, whatever it is.

Your H then needs to explain the new arrangement to his parents, and hold them to it. If he won't talk with you, won't talk to his parents, or won't hold them to what you two decide on? Couples counseling asap.

You have a husband problem if he won't listen to your incredibly valid feelings about this. No one should be taking up so much of your family's time (and I'm just talking about you and him - his parents and your parents are now your extended family). You both need to be ok with anyone coming to visit in your home. Sit down with him and put your foot down.

Honestly they are your family too maybe you should say something if he won't. I have told my in laws to call before coming over because we live right now the street from them and they just think its okay to just walk on in. And they call now.

Wow that's way too much. So sorry for you. Hold your ground and be persistent with the hubby

I'm sorry but that is gross that they would even WANT to sleep in your bed. You're newlyweds. Do they not know what happens in a newlyweds bed?

Next time leave a used condom under the pillow and I bet they won't want to sleep in your bed again.

But more than that, I would be really upset with my H if I was you. He needs to be the one to set boundaries with him family, especially if he knows what they are doing is upsetting you.