Including stepchildren/children during the ceremony?

My two sons 16 and 13 are groomsman thanks to my amazing FH and his 13 year old daughter is a bridesmaid

I wish I would have thought about having them walk me down the isle that would be so special. Not sure how I could work that with my dad and my boys walking me but now something to ponder...

Hi! This is also my second marriage for him as well. We are blending lotsssss of kids. I have two younger daughters 10 13. He has 15 14 daughtees and one 11 yr son. So quite alot. Unfortunately both my parents passed away. My two daughters will be giving me away. His two daughters will be part of bridemaids with my maid of honor. Its our way of bringing the kids in. With that being said, remember this is about you and him. So dont get hooked up on alllll their wants and opinions. They may have good and bad ideas. Just sort through but always pick for you and him..

I disagree I believe my children and his are a huge part of our life and of course our ceremony. He is dad to my kids as their father is not involved and I am Momma Carrie to his girls. The 3 girls are our flower girls ages 8,9,10 and our son age 8 is our ring bearer. We got them each a ring with November birth stone (the month we are getting married) We have our own vows to each other and then this for them...

Carrie and Michael,

you have declared your love for each other.

In your promise to spend the rest of your lives together

you have also accepted the responsibilities of parenthood towards each other's children. You have established a home where each child finds love, security and acceptance.

As part of your love for each other, I now ask you to make your promises to them.

(Kids come forward)

-Emma -Sadie -Lainy and Taylan,

we promise to love and support you

to be there for you

to listen to you and respect you

to cherish and guide you

to help you learn right from wrong

to show you how to respect others and the world around you

to be there when you need us

and to give you love and make you part of our new family

(rings given to kids)

Heavenly Father,

thank you for allowing us the opportunity to be present in this day

where a family comes together in marriage.

Send your blessing down upon Carrie and Michael and the children

as they begin their journey through life together.

Look graciously upon them, that they may so love, honor and cherish one another

that their home may be a haven of blessings and a place of peace. Through Christ Our Lord…. Amen!

We are doing the unity sand ceremony and we each will have vows for each of the children. Our daughter will be 15 and our son will 5. We also will exchange a gift with them.

My FH son is not going to be in our wedding. He and I have decided on this, but have not talked to his family about it yet and I know they will have a huge issue with it but I don't care. He is still young (he will be 5 when the ceremony rolls around) and shy so I know that if we decided to have him as a ring bearer he would freeze up and not want to walk down the aisle and I don't want that to happen. Plus, we don't have a flower girl and I think the two should go together so we're skipping it and he can just sit in the audience. FH is fine with it so as long as we're on the same page, screw what anyone else thinks.

We are blending large families into a very large family! He has 4 plus a soon to be DIL, and I have 5 (including my precious DIL) and we have a grandson who will be 28 months by our wedding date. My oldest son wants to be the flower girl... it's totally him and his sense of humor!

So, our kiddos (ages 15 to 29) will stand with their respective parent provided they agree and no hurt feelings if they don't.

We will make commitments to our children as they are now part of a much bigger family.

Would love to hear what you decide!

@Carrie O...in tears...so beautiful!

ETA: ridiculous amount of spacing between paragraphs

My daughters and I are pretty close and they still live with me for the most part. That's me on the left, my eldest on her 21st birthday, and my 20 year old on the right. (The clarity of the photo isn't the greatest because I took a photo of the Polaroid.)

My son will be walking me down the aisle with my dad. He is also my man of honor. We have decided to do family vows. Something simple and short about how we will act as one family unit and not two separate families.

My younger son and J's son were our witnesses, my older son and my dil brought up the rings and did readings, my younger son and dil did toasts at the reception.

^^The priest told us to join hands so my dil and I held hands too