Including my teen daughter

I'm not sure having a minor pass out alcohol during a wedding ceremony is the best idea, honestly. What if she passed out individual flowers to people as she walked up the aisle?

I must agree that passing out liquor at all, much less by a 14 year old, doesn't seem like a good idea on several level - 1. if your ceremony is at a house of worship and not a venue with a liquor license liquor will be a problem on the premises, and 2. as she is a minor, she should not be in possession of liquor at all. There are liquor laws that govern this - my in-laws owned a bar and the laws are very strict. My suggestion would be to dress her as a Junior Bridesmaid in an age-appropriate ensemble but give her a basket of flowers, to either drop or instead of a bouquet, and perhaps a headband of flowers in her hair. Position her in the front of the procession where a flower girl might usually be. At my recent, very simple and less formal, convalidation wedding ceremony, our 9 year old granddaughter was dressed in a lace dress and carried a basket with a flower arrangement. She wasn't exactly in the wedding party which consisted of our son as Best Man and my BFF as Matron of Honor( the kids brought the Offertory bread and wine to the altar) but I wanted to her feel like the "Flower Girl" and she was pleased! Best of luck!!

Great photo! Thanks for sharing!!

Did your daughter explain why she wants to be a flower girl? Is it that she does not want to stand up with you during the whole ceremony? The question arises in part because you are no longer talking about flowers or petals.

I had a 12 year old flower girl, and she handed out long stem white roses to each guest at the aisle side seat. It was classy instead of childish.

If you're looking for something fun/funny, maybe you could do something like the "flower men" do where they wear sunglasses and have a fanny-pack or briefcase of flower petals and a fun song as they throw them.

So to answer a few questions, I asked her if she wanted to be involved and if so what does she want to do. She stated "flower girl" but different. Her original wardrobe idea was spider man but I did have to say no.

See she has had a few medical conditions (not mental if anyone is thinking that) that kept her from being flower girl at her uncles wedding. I also feel like I have to add, this won't be a traditional wedding and will most likely be held at a private residence. I do plan on having kinda like cocktails before the ceremony so guest have something to do while waiting. We are also not a traditional white family who frown upon older kids handling alcohol. We all handle alcohol as kids for our parents.

We are looking for something fun that involves her. This is the role she chose and we are okay with it.