Including mothers in the sand ceremony...

I think I would have my mom do the same color as me and his mom the same as him.

I'd go with a different color to have a more visual representation than just symbolic. If you're both doing blues, maybe have them do white? If you want them to have different colors, I have no idea, but maybe 2 different shades of white/off-white?

MOB could pour baby pink and MOG could pour baby blue. Your could pour white and FH could pour dark blue.

I usually just have the moms (and dads) hand the bottles of sand to the B&G for them to pour.

I agree, MOB should use same color as bride and MOG same color as groom. In my processionals, the mother's carry the individual sand viles filled with the color sand and do one of two things: (1) just carry the bottles of sand to the ceremony table or (2) once they reach the ceremony table the mom's may pour just a little into the main unity sand vase.

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We are including our boys as a symbol of combining our familys since my oldest is from my first marriage. And we are doing different shades of our wedding colors

Yes, the sand ceremony is great way to join blended families.

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I don't think the parents should be involved at all. The sand ceremony is supposed to represent the union of you two, in marriage. Maybe I'm just jaded because my family is involved in so much of my life, that I want my wedding to just be about me and FH becoming one. Not the four of us becoming one.

We are doing a sand ceremony also with our parents. We are using white as the base, for our 'foundation'. It wouldnt mess with your color scheme and would look pretty! Or you can have them each pick there own color, thats what we are doing with our parents.

For me, I would prefer to have the mothers use a different color from me and FH, but I actually wouldn't mind them having the same color--but they might feel differently, so you might want to ask them. Like Natasha, I see the visuals of the finished object as important, and I would want my and FH's colors to be just us.

I like the idea of white but i'm not sure if I want them to pour the same color or different. I view the appearance of the end result as very important as well but the symbolism is the most important thing. We ordered the sand and got 1 bag of white and 1 bag each of 3 shades of blue so our options are pretty wide open.

I've seen many things over the years. The best is to have a his mom & your mom come up to the table as they walk down the isle & pour sand into each child's glass. Let your photographer know the mother's will be pouring sand into each child's glass so the shot isn't missed.

Hope this helps

Michelle Castle

www.MichelleCastlePhotography.com

I was thinking something completly different! I was think that the mother's could combine the color that you are pouring with there color. IE if you are pouring light blue and you want your mother to pour royal blue then she would pour the two together so they mix. Same with his mother and FH. Then you and FH use the mixed sand as your new color. I think that that would represent you and your husband becoming one yet still remembering those in your family that helped you become who you and FH are today! I think having parents participate in this part of the cermony makes this part even more special!

So what color sand did you decide?

Well those are nice ideas, but we are mixing our sand to represent that we can not be separated just like the sand. i think we will have our mothers hold our sand and give it to us when it is time to pour. we are also including our children.