In or out? What are you going to do? Where does everyone sit?

We wanted a head table but with about 16 adults that just wasnt realistic with how our venue does the set up for tables. It would have taken up a lot of space on our dance floor and with over 150 guests invited we did not want to lose out on anymore space after everything else. I wasnt fond of the idea of a sweetheart table but after being in awedding myself and being stuck next to people i dont really know for the hour long dinner.. i couldnt wait to be seated next to my fiance. So i think it will be great for all of our friends in the wedding party who dont have their significant others or dates in it. I dont think it will look weird or anything and most of our wedding party will probably appreciate being able to sit next to their date/partner (and they probably will too!)

Do the sweat heart table but not the head table. I was a BM once at a head table. It’s much more enjoyable when you are seated with your close friends and/or SO. A head table is for people who are doing a super traditional wedding.

I think my FH wants a sweet heart table but I want him and I to sit with my parents and his mother. We just lost his father in January unexpectedly. Our wedding party can sit with whoever they choose. We aren't having assigned seats.

We’re doing a sweetheart table and then one table for my side of the wedding party and their significant others, and then a separate table for my FHs side of the wedding party and their significant others.

We're doing a sweetheart table and will have our wedding party sit with their SO. I feel like after all of the formalities, the head table looks empty because the groomsmen and bridesmaids leave to find/sit with their SO.

We haven't planned out our seating chart so I'm not sure exactly where we will seat them just yet.

I also think a sweetheart table is nice because it allows alone time with your spouse to talk and reflect.

In! Sweetheart tables are sweeter than head tables, in my opinion. Yes, everyone in wedding should sit with their dates (whether or not at the head table). I was a MOH at a head table and my boyfriend at to sit at a table of strangers all night. Both of us were miserable and got into a tiff over it later. Ugh.

Wow... I think I am changing mine! This is the first time I have heard of the sweatheart table. Thinking this will be way better too!

Most weddings i've been to have had a head table. We don't plan to. We're having a sweetheart table so our attendants can sit with their significant others/families.

We are doing a sweetheart table. I'm not a head table fan, I would prefer to sit the wedding party with their friends & family & significant others rather than forcing them to sit together. I would assume a table with 26 members and their significant others and kids would be too many.

We are doing a king's table, but with only bridal party. Honestly, most of our wedding party are couples anyway! The few that aren't and are part of our respective families, so they'll be sitting with family up front anyway.

Sweetheart tables are still a great option too! We just wanted to sit with our bridal party.

We are going to have a sweetheart table with the bridal party sitting on tables by us with their partners/ family. Especially since it is NYE I understand why you want for them to be with their SO, therefore its a way to accommodate both... I am sure throughout the night everyone is going to be walking around anyway, they only stay seated for about an hour or so.

We have 12 in our bridal party. I didn’t want them to be separated from their spouse ( and children in some instances) so we are doing a sweetheart table with reserved tables close by for attendants and family.

We did a sweet heart table and I loved it! It gave us a moment to ourselves as we were each mingling with guests the rest of the night. We put the groomsmen at a table together and then my sister, a bridesmaid, sat my family table and my other bridesmaid sat at a table with my friends who I knew she’d get along with. Everyone was sat with their date/SO
I’ve been a bridesmaid in a wedding where they had a head table, it was ok but i was away from my date. He knew people there though.

We are doing a sweetheart table. We think our wedding party should be able to sit with their s.o and that way we will have a large variety of pictures too.

We got married NYE! We left space and floated from table to table..

It worked out for me because our groomsman are single or married and their wives are on the bridesmaid side lol. My older sister is the only person who isn't single and who's spouse isn't also in the wedding party but he isn't able to come because she's traveling alone from Washington. If I was in your situation, I think I would go for a sweetheart table only. Still super cute and you can reserve 3-4 tables for parents on both sides and wedding party.

We are doing a blend. We are having a sweethearts table on a platform behind a head table with our wedding party in front (no SOs). This way we have a little bit of a buffer so people don't come up and bother us while we eat.

SOs will be seated at tables with people they already know so they can still have a good time

With as many people as you have I would definitely recommend exploring the sweetheart table option, then you don't need 4 tables across just to seat your bridal party. It might end up looking a little "Last Supper"-y, too.

We are doing a king's table, but we have a very small WP in comparison to most people

Our wedding party members are from various parts of our lives... FH's are 2 friends from college and 2 from high school, and mine are even more scattered--one from elementary school, one from middle school/high school/college, one from high school, and one who is my mom's best friend's daughter who I've known since I was born and is like a cousin to me. 2 of my girls know each other because they went to high school together and they get along fine, but they were from 2 separate friends groups that I was part of in high school so even those 2 aren't really "friends." Among the others, none will ever even have met likely until the rehearsal the day before! I didn't want to force them to sit together... especially when most of them have other friends who will be at the wedding. i.e. FH's 2 groomsmen from college are part of a larger group of about 10 of his college friends, all of whom are invited, so I am sure those groomsmen would be a good sport either way, but would prefer to sit with their group of friends!

I am not sure if we will be able to do a sweetheart table, because our venue is tight on space and they said we may not be able to fit an extra table....... but we literally may ask them to just put our sweetheart table on the dance floor temporarily lol, and if that doesn't work we may just try to sit with one or both of our families. Our bridal party will have already spent enough time with us and with each other, I'd rather them get to mingle with their other friends at the reception!

That being said, if your wedding party members are all friends with each other and would want to sit together anyway, then a head table could be fun! Just make sure you let them sit with their SOs too... my friend was a bridesmaid in a wedding where she had to sit at the head table and her boyfriend was assigned to a random table without her where he knew no one... it was super uncomfortable for him!

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Lolololol @Last Supper-y