In memory of our lost ones

I am doing a “memorial setup”. Both of my fiancé’s parents have passed away already and neither of us have living grandparents, either. I think it’s nice to have memories of them on your day.

View Quoted Comment Ok so am not the only one. Thank god! Yea I don’t find it creepy I just think it’s sweet because it’s like having them in the wedding

I think it's a great idea. We will be doing this as well. My fiance was very close with his grandparents, and I was close with mine, so we are going to have pictures of them, as well as pictures of my mom. I always think this is a really thoughtful idea.

View Quoted Comment Lol. We got really pretty picture frames to set up together. We are also doing a smaller memorial type deal at our shower, too. I don’t think remembering your loved ones on your wedding day is creepy at all.

It's very common to have memorial tables at weddings. This is a picture of ours.

View Quoted Comment That’s beautiful you even have your doggies

Daughter is more in the "creepy" camp on this so did NOT have any kind of a memorial. Instead, she did small private things that were meaningful ways for her to have especially her grandparents "with her" at the wedding. Her bouquet was wrapped with fabric from her gramma's wedding gown (my sister and I had also worn that dress) and daughter said that way it was if g-ma was "holding her hand" all day. My dad used to always save his change to give to the grandkids, including daughter. Since he passed 10 years ago, whenever we find pennies on the street we always say they are "pennies from Papa" and a reminder he's always watching over us. She found a penny from the year both sets of her grandparents were married, and FOB drilled a small hole in it and we tied it to her bouquet, so "Papa" was with her all day, and the penny commemorated the very long happy marriages of her grandparents. Subtle things that were meaningful to her, but not public. There are lots of different ways to remember loved ones.

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This is so nice. It's a great idea to have all the frames matching, I hadn't thought of that before.

We're doing a remembrance string that will go across our backdrop/arch. I wanted those who passed to have a "front row seat". At first, I was picturing just a few photos, but when we tallied it all up, there are 22 people in our lives who have passed. So it DOES look a little morbid now, but it's sort of what happens when you get married when you're older. Had we met and gotten married years ago, most of those people would have still been alive.

It's very common to do some sort of remembrance at your wedding. Some brides carry little photos in their bouquets, some do a table with photos, and some have their officiant make an announcement or remembrance prayer before the vows. I've heard of people playing their loved ones' favorite songs, or serving up their favorite beverages, etc. It's sort of up to you how you want to honor your dearly departed. I don't think there's a wrong way.

We want to do a small memorial collage of all the loved ones who have passed at the reception. And then at the ceremony, I want to leave 2 empty seats for my parents who passed.
Paying tribute to your loved ones isn't creepy, just do it a way you and your FH will both like.