"In Loving Memory" Ettiquette

Personally, I wouldn't list the dates they passed. I would just list their names and maybe a quote or something like that. Maybe just do oldest to youngest.

After I walk down the asile, We are having a moment of silence for loved ones who couldn't be there. with pictures up by the altar.

I don't think there are any hard and fast rules for this, but I would suggest ordering by relation to the bride/groom, so your FH's brother would be listed first, and then you could list his grandparents, and then yours.

And yes, include the relationship--- it will be helpful for guests who don't know the person by name.

something like:

On this special day in our lives, we lovingly remember Mr. Roger Smith, Brother of the groom, Mr. Alan and Mrs. Regina Smith, paternal grandparents of the groom, Mr. Scott Simons, maternal grandfather of the groom, and Mr. Robert and Mrs. Ida Jones, maternal grandparents of the bride.

There isn't any real etiquette on the subject of deceased loved ones. We gave ours mention during our ceremony and moment of silence, along with some photo collages at our reception.

Thank you! Both great suggestions. And no I will not list the date they passed. Maybe I'll see if his grandparents and brother had a trademark expression or something. Thanks again!

I'm having a separate table with those who have passed on it in the reception area.

We're doing a chair with photos at the ceremony. I don't think we'll mention them in the program though, or at least I had never thought of that. The last wedding I went to they just vaguely had mention of those in memory at the reception.

We are just listing names and relationship under the names in no specific order. We are also doing reserved chairs at the ceremony.

No dates on the program, but our etiquette lady said brides family first and start with the fathers side of the family. I really don't think it matters

We are going to mention my late Father, and Jim's late parents on our program, and have 3 candles lite representing them during the ceremony. I will have my sister light the one for my Dad, and have Jim's oldest sister light one for his parents.