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IN-LAWS LEAVING OUR WEDDING EARLY!!!!

I_Found_Mr_Wright, on October 2, 2012 at 2:03 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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This is a long story but I'm going to try to give the quickest version possible so I don't bore you all to death. That's assuming anyone even reads this :-)

My husband and I had been dating about 5 years before we got married (Aug 24) and during that time span, his mother had never really been that fond of me as she felt that I was "taking her little boy away from her". My MIL is a very manipulative and passive aggressive person and has said numerous times that she didn't think her son should marry me. Her entire family is pretty much just like her and have been rude to me from the start. Both my husband and I have tried hard to make it work with his family but they continued to be jerks to us.

At the wedding, his family barely said two words to me and did not even congratulate us. Out of the 50 people invited on his side, only 3 of them gave us gifts and/or cards AND they all left the reception more than an hour before it was over. My husband was MORTIFIED.

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Latest activity by MistysoontobeBell, on October 2, 2012 at 2:15 PM

Expert August 2012
I_Found_Mr_Wright · on October 2, 2012 at 2:03 PM
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When he confronted his mother about it, she just gave excuse after excuse saying that she was in pain and needed to go home and that everyone waited SO long for us to be announced at the reception (they waited 45 min and during that time cocktail hour was going on) that everyone was tired of sitting around. Not once did she apologize for anything and she even had the nerve to say that people did not give gifts because they already gave me a bridal shower gift.

My husband and I are so beyond mad at them and we have both decided to cut them out of our lives (at least for now) and only focus on each other and positive people in our lives.

I don't know if this is all making sense and please feel free to ask questions as I'm leaving a lot of details out but I just wanted some input to find out if anyone else has been in a similar situation and what you did or what you recommend doing. Thanks in advance.
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Just Reenski · on October 2, 2012 at 2:06 PM
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I mean no offense, but you already posted about this... are you looking for new advice?
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Karla · on October 2, 2012 at 2:14 PM
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Déjà vu!?
I feel like I've read this post before?!? OMG how weird....
Anyway.. my wedding is this Sunday. And i hope i don't go through what you went through... Reason being is my MIL is almost as you described yours! She "likes me now" but there are some times that it seems she just wants FI and i to fight! There has been lots of times when she complaints to FI about me not saying "hello" to her? I'm like really... aside from a lot more issues.... Anyway sorry you had to go through that. FI since the beginning of our engagement felt real sad, he felt like his fam didn't support him at all that that he had NOBODY from his family by his side, on proposal day his MOTHER and sister where with us (as it happen ad Disneyland) and they all just STOOD there, they didn't even HUG him or congratulate him. It was a very special moment for him and they didn't even care! They've gotten better about the situation, but i'm scared they're going to disappoint FH in some way on wedding day!
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MistysoontobeBell · on October 2, 2012 at 2:15 PM
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Question - Was she just saying they gave you bridal shower girts or did they?
I can understand in a way what you are going through. My FMIL likes me but my FFIL (who is my FH's stepfather) and FH are not talking and he is not invited to the wedding (long story but I don't like or want him there ether). But my FH is an only child and wants his mother there. But we do not think she will come. And we are affaid some of FHs mom's side of the family want come ether. I believe this is one of the reasons it has been like pulling teeth with FH to get a guest list for that side of the family. FH's mom knows where we live and has been to our house a few times but we have not seen her or heard from her sence this started. I am truely sorry about what has happened. The only advice I can give is to not think about it. Live your life. Good luck!
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