In-laws Family

View Quoted Comment I'm not sure why you think I'm angry. I never once said that I was angry. What I said was, "I'm upset". The reason I'm upset is because this woman has ONLY met me 2 or 3 times. ALWAYS on a holiday at my in laws house. She never really speaks to me and I ALWAYS go out of my way to welcome her.

This is a woman that has met me 2 or 3 times. Literally lives 2 blocks from my in-laws, which is 10-15 minutes from me and never comes around. She barely talks to me when we're all together for the holidays. It's been posted MULTIPLE times on my Facebook page. Yes, I'll "technically" be part of the family, but I'm getting married to her nephew. Therefore it's really NOT her business what I do with my last name.

I am still confused as to why you are "upset" (as opposed to "angry"). It's a typical small talk question. Maybe she didn't look too closely at your profile. Maybe she wanted to double check because she's planning to write you and your new husband a check as a wedding gift.

There is nothing rude about that. You will be announcing it publicly at your wedding, and printing it on your marriage license application.
Say whatever you intend to do. After marriage, I will be using my birth name, and FI intends to use his. OR I will be changing my middle name, using my surname as middle and taking FI last name. OR I will keep my name, and FI will take my last name . OR ...hyphenate, make up a new name...
I think it is wonderful she said, what are you going to do about it. Making clear it is your choice, and she just wants to know what that choice is, of at least 6 possibilities. Aggravating would be if she never asked, and just assumed you would choose what she did. Encourage her recognizing it is your choice, and asking what you intend to do. Be nice.

View Quoted Comment You cannot expect people to read and remember your posts. Lots don't at all, or only read some of the time.