I just simply want opinions on this matter. I have been with my FH for 11 years. Both sides of our families have been waiting for us to get married. We got engaged and we were so happy. His mom is the type to be angry at the world and start drama. We can get along but we have bumped heads. Her family is the largest out of everyone so her guest list is double the amount of everyone else. At the beginning I have asked her what she is comfortable helping pay for things as my parents arent paying for everything. So far my parents have paid for hall for ceremony/ reception, DJ, Photobooth, Planner, and Decorator. That is a bit with all the deposits. I have tried to openly bring it up with her and she likes to change the subject. I have gotten an answer "Whatever you want me to help with?, oh how much is that and changes the subject. Now so far I told her my FH and I are saving up for our photographer and she SHOCKLY gave me $100 for it. (didnt help much but still was happy to recieve something). I decided to take her to look at flowers with me and every week sense "are you booking flowers with her"? NO because I am not spending 1k on flowers. Sorry but if you want to please be my guest. She spent 1k on her other sons wedding but brides parents paid for everything.
Our boat is different and we need to figure out how much we need to get a loan out for so we can plan the rest of the wedding out. My FH brought it up last night since she asked again about flowers he asked if she would pay for them. Her response "I gave her $100"...........
Neither one of his parents seem to want to help with anything but yet want to invite the whole town and have a huge party. My FH and I are starting to argue more about this as he doesnt see it. We can not afford 250 guest with 15k... Is his mom playing games to stress me out?
Oh I asked his dad for a guest list in August-November and still nothing! So i assumed 20 people.. Does his family just not care about us getting married?!